I have been told many times by men that I am intimidating. I consider myself to be shy, but friendly, and cool with all types of people, so I don't get it.
I was out dancing with friends recently when a guy came up to me and told me that I was intimidating. He said he wanted to "give me advice" because I was pretty , but I looked mean. I found the whole thing weird since we had had a conversation a few moments earlier where we were cracking jokes, and making small talk. He wasn't trying to hit on me, In fact I think his brother is the one that kinda liked me, but I was annoyed by his whole "it's my fault" approach. His brother was off by himself looking, well, intimidated. Meanwhile he had no problem talking to one of my friends, who was completely standoffish, yet I was intimidating? I don't get it.
I'm asking you guys, because this is not the first time I heard this from a guy. A couple of my guy friends have also called me intimidating. I joke that more men should "man up" which always kinda reinforces their argument. Oops.
I don't want to intimidate men, but I don't plan on creating some persona to appease their fears either. Was that an intimidating statement? lol. I would like men to feel like they can approach me though, so maybe this is a two part question.
I'm curious about what makes men intimidated by a woman?
Also, any advice on how to stop scaring the male population away?
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Any number of things could make you look like less than approachable. The way you make eye contact. You're either trying too hard to tell us to get our butts over there or boring into our souls. I'm gonna guess you don't smile when you first meet a guy. Not smiling is the first sign of the apocalypse in a man's dating world. Try flashing the pearly whites in a warm way. The way you stand or talk to other people. How firm is your voice? How deep is it? What is your body language saying? If it's something alone the lines of "touch me and I'll rip your eyes out", then guys probably aren't going to line up to talk to you.
Last piece of advice, try actually approaching guys yourself. They may feel too intimidated to come to you, but most guys aren't going to run screaming if you head to them. You CAN initiate contact yourself, you know.2