Girl, do you get turn off, if he text too much?

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I'm wandering cause you never know if your crush is getting turn off by the constant texting. I don't text much but you know, when I'm texting with someone that is interested in me & I'm interested in her,  I kind of start texting & calling more than I really do & somehow I start  thinking about "what  if I'm turning her off or something like that", hah sometimes I think the worst. My question is Do you girls, get to a point that it kind of start pissing you off, the constant texting? Any advice on texting from a girl's perspective?

Fkewe · Accepted Answer

'If it's a guy I'm interested in, there's no such thing as texting me too much.". I had a guy tell me that as he believes that if a female likes a guy that it won't matter how much he inundates her with non-stop text she'll just deal with it - that is completely false.

I hope that females stop giving passes to guys just because of liking a guy. That excuses poor behavior and poor social skills. I had to correct the guy that believed that, because I don't care how attractive or how attracted I am to the guy - if continues to overtext me, I get annoyed.

I'm currently going through this where the guy will text me non-stop all day and all night. I cringe at replying to his texts, because he does the absolute most and always wants to keep the texting going endlessly.

I stopped replying to him at night, because if I reply, he'll just keep right on texting. Last night he texted until 3am, I was so annoyed, but that's not the first time - he's done that a few times. I have told him that he texts entirely too much as I prefer not to tied to my phone or to always have to be responsive.

Compiled with him being an absolute talker. I like him, I'm attracted to him, but I don't want to get any closer to him, because he's already doing the absolute most with way too much constant texting. Yesterday morning he did the same where he texted good morning, I replied. We had an exchange for 15-20 minutes and then we both said "talk to you later". A few minutes later, he attempted to start another text exchange by asking another question.

I was so annoyed and I said: I thought we were saying "talk to you later" which meant later on, not 3 minutes later. He thought it was funny, but I was not amused. I do have many other things to preoccupy my time. Then again he did the same thing later that night and that was not the first time that he's done that at night.

It messes up my sleep pattern to have texts coming in and coming in and then he'll call. So for any guys that assume that if you do this with the over texting that if a sensible woman declines your constant want to be in touch that she does not like you or is not attracted to you - that is 100% false. It's the terrible social behavior and again females need to stop excusing bad behavior.

jenni_ms · Accepted Answer

I'm going through this situation right now.. If it's a guy I'm interested in, there's no such thing as texting me too much. But the difference is that I don't like the guy in that way. I've told him that, made it veerrryyy clear that I have no romantic interest but that he's still a cool person and I would be happy to be friends and talk when he's bored etc. But that means texting me sometimes, not every hour of everyday. And like @LoveArt stated, he keeps texting "wyd", "heyy", "whats up?", "Good morning". If I say I'm not doing anything at 9am, then you text me again and ask what I'm doing at 9:30am, that's annoying. I just don't reply. Then he sends sh*t like, "hello?", "did you get my message?" "?", "I wish you would answer me :)" "I said, wyd?"

-_- I literally have 15 messages he's sent me without a response and four missed calls..

Moral of the story, if she likes you and is responding to you, you cannot text her too much. Beware when you stop getting responses or she's kind of rude when she does respond.

LOVEART · Accepted Answer

If I'm interested in the person, it makes me all the more merry...lol

but don't text me every single freakin' time, wyd?, hey, what'sup?, yo'...no...are you incapable of starting a conversation or something to not to be harsh but is that all you can think of? Okay, it's nice to know that you're possibly thinking of me every hour on the hour but if you can't hold my attention then the whole situation is annoying...

I'm already interested, interest me more...please?!

wormyrug · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I worry a lot about this as well seeing as I text a girl 3-4 times a week for a few hours, and always worry that I'm bothering her.

My advice is that you don't start a conversation more than once a day unless the previous conversation was cut-off midway by something and was really interesting. If you find yourself running out of things to talk about, stop texting! Well, say goodbye first, and then maybe don't text for a few days so you have more things to talk about.

I was texting a girl every night for about 3 months from about 9pm-1am (something like 1000+ messages a night) and things were fine, and she wasn't bothered about it, but more recently we cut down to a few times a week simply because otherwise, we wouldn't have enough to talk about. Texting is harder to have spontaneous parts of a conversation, prompted by things you see or what other people are saying, so it's harder to have prolonged conversations.

Know when you aren't wanted as well, if the other person is doing something, make an excuse and let her do what she was doing, and if the other person starts responding with monosyllables or taking longer and longer times to respond, end the conversation.

These are all things I've learnt from texting her, and according to her, the girl will let you know if you are being annoying, although somewhat subtely like outlined above.

Most important thing, try not to start a conversation with inane stuff like, "Hi" or "Whassup?" unless you think the girl is genuinely bored, otherwise that's a little annoying. Try starting with a jokey text like "I'm here, what are your other two wishes" or some little story that made you think of her, "It's shark week, thought of you" (this was hilarious when I used it, cos the girl spent ages pestering me about why it made me think of her.)

Absolut1l · Accepted Answer

I feel like this same thing is happening to me right now. Been lots of texting, lots of humor, lots of "hey how's your day going." But it actually seems to be making it stale. Like, if you're constantly texting little things, the excitement factor of seeing each other again is lessened. At least with her. I get the same way as you described. I get all gitty with a new girl I like and text way too much. I would advise against it. It makes you seem too "available." Women generally want to feel special. So if you constantly have time for her, there's nothing special about it. If you are unavailable most the time on the other hand... And then call and talk to her for a while, it will have a bigger impact. And if you text here less, when you see her, you'll have a whole week or however long since the last time you saw her of stuff to talk about.

And thanks for asking this question so I don't have to!

SuperPerve · Answer

I think guys set the tone for how frequent texting and calling etc should be - and so the key is not escalating it too much in a short period of time?

Like, a girl will notice if you start getting more frequent, and if she isn't fully interested yet, she will respond negatively.

cutieclouds · Answer

no, I won't be pissed of whether I like him or not. if I'm interested in that guy, defo I feel sweet to keep texting. if not, I'm cool with it, but I will give him the hint that I'm not interested. if he still keeps contacting me after several hints, I will choose to ignore him..

prettyhot99 · Answer

If she really likes you ,  It wouldn't bother her .  Normally it would only bother a person if they don't really like you .  I'm pretty sure your not over doing it .

bunnyfrancis · Answer

if I like you then you can't text me enough. i love hearing from the guy I like, it makes me smile(:

Anonymous · Answer

Not a turn off but, sometimes it gets really awkward when you run out of something to say.

Anonymous · Answer

Some girls I suppose not all though. It annoys me if they don't text me.

Fiona83 · Answer

If his grammar/spelling is as bad as yours, yes...

Anonymous · Answer

yah

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