I'm a 21 year old college student and I don't understand why every guy that has ever dated me all end up hurting me badly. I don't seek these guys out, they all come to me. They choose me, and then either dump me or completely hurt my feelings. They then apologize and say they still want to keep in touch, WTF?! Every single on of them! All I want is to be in a normal, healthy relationship with a sweet guy. The thing is, these guys NEVER look my way, they always ignore me. Why am I such an a**hole magnet? I'm pretty confident, I'm driven, and don't have any self-esteem or confidence issues. I'm not co-dependent, and people tell me that I'm a very cute girl. Anybody know anything about how to deal with this? Because honestly I'm stuck, and I don't know what to do about this.
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Look I've seen this said by a number of girls I know and it's because they seem to keep guys who are nice purely as friends and then what you are left with is vibes you are sending out to the wrong type of guy, who then approach you and you then end up dating them. Girls who only attract arseholes seem to only have eyes for guys who appear similar to the previous guy, who himself was an arsehole. Now be 100% honest with yourself - do you tend to not go for particular type of guys? Have you rejected certain guys because they are not your type? It is very possible that the guys you are rejecting may not be the cutest out there but have the heart of gold.
Trust me I have seen this with a number of a my fem friends who only go for particular types of guys and then complain that every guy they have dates is an arsehole etc...
Im sorry if I am wrong here about you but it is simply not possible that every single guy is an arsehole and it must be the vibes you send out that only attract these types of guys. Try dating a guy you would normally never go for and see if that makes any difference.1
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