So, I just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about 2 months ago and just cannot make up my mind whether or not to try and work things out with him or not. As of right now he has moved out of my apartment and we are still talking everyday and hangout once in a while. He wants to work things out and eventually move back in with me, but I'm not too sure that is a good idea. So...Let me break it down and give my reasons behind breaking up with him in the first place. (1) Disrespects me in front of family and friends to be funny (2) Expects me to pay for everything when we go out to bars (3) Did not help me clean (dishes, vacuum, laundry etc.) (4) Slept in a separate bed and room for 5 months due to a new pet (5) Stopped trying to have relations with me and would tell me "maybe another night" when I would try and initiate sex. Now, I mind you when we moved in together after a year into the relationship, that is when things started to go down hill. So, I need some womanly advise. Should I stay single and try and work on things with him slowly, now that he and I do not live together? Or should I say goodbye and move on? This is all just so hard. I love his family very much and in the past was planning our future together. I feel like he completely gave up on our relationship and now that I am not his, he wants me back. If anyone has any tips or advise I would appreciate it :)
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Wow. A guy says no to sex and its a problem for the girl. You know how much we get shot down? And don't turn it into an excuse to break up?
anyway its hard to give an opinion without more detail. If the sleeping in different areas was due to your not liking the pet. That is more your problem. If not...? does he pay a fair share of other qctivities? Sometimes I will not pay for things because I pay for other things: ie. Ill let her pay for food or drinks since I pay the cable bill. Or the gas for our boating adventures/etc.
Basically if their is equality in the spending..
I do the same thing with dishes/cleaning. I do all the laundry cleaning here and there but since I am paying for most of our luxuries I feel it is acceptable.0