I'm 19 and have been rejected by 10 girls in my life. The only girlfriend I had, I had for about one 1/2 years. It was lucky and I knew she'd say yes. When she went to college, she wasn't interested enough to make it work. Whenever I see a girl I like, I zone out and get nervous. I'm very brave in everything else, skydiving/football etc but I freak out when talking to a girl I like. In my group of friends, they are constantly hooking up with people and I had to lie to seem masculine. Truth is I'm still a virgin and only kissed one girl. This was a problem in my relationship too, because my ex had kissed other guys, and I felt weak in comparison. I was also bitter about it too.
Now there have been some positives from this lack of female attention, I worked out and lost weight and have abs coming through. I'm only 5'8 so I know I'm at a disadvantage. I think I look awful, but some have told me I look handsome(probably white lies). I am the most athletic of my friends, almost went professional in soccer and am studying to be a doctor(pre-med), but I think this stuff is useless if I can't be man enough to get a girl's attention. I don't know if I want the ego boost of a hookup or a serious relationship to help my nonexistent confidence. What should I do? I'm getting frustrated and feel like I'm not man enough.
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Can you please take it easy!? Loads of people out there are virgins and have little experience, don't make it a bigger deal than it already is or you will drive yourself nuts. No offence but doctors are givers of life how can you state in your question that you wanna die alone?! And the reason being: that you're still a teen and single. Come back and ask this question when you're 35 then it may seem a biiiit legit. And even if it seemed legit now, how can you wanna die or whatever over something which you haven't even trie dto solve?! Get over your nervousness and try dating instead of whining. Girls hate people with such baggage and so much drama so turn it down a notch cos they can smell it a mile away. Point is there are billions of reasons to be alive even when you're single at 50! Being healthy and well shouldn't be taken for granted HECK you wanna be a doctor then you gotta pass on positive vibes to ppl, I'm sorry that's how it goes. I'm a teacher I can't carry my emotional baggage in class even when I was 20 and still a virgin! You need to toughen up! Ask girls out consistenty and practice being on dates eventually you ll get it right. Don't be unappreciative of what you have-- plus people are mid aged and alone so stop whining and make things happen cos relationships don't fall out of the sky. Have some fun with girls and don't focus on relationhips of tw bat cos you stress yourself out. Date aroun become less nervous around them and it will eventuallly become a relationship. You're too young to be complaining in such a dramatic way amd I'm not patronizing you I just wanna give you a loud wake up call to appreciate life your hobbies and your friends and stop being so negative0