both guys and women say they don't like "games". my answer is that they do, at least to some extent.
of course we all have our own definition of the word games. to me it means testing the other person with subtleties. I do not mean lying, cheating, being an a**hole/bitch or being fake about anything.
but relationships don't just form directly. some games are necessary. it's not like someone goes up to a guy/woman and says "here is a list of reasons why I would make a great partner for you; now sign this contract and we will officially be in a relationship". no! there are steps involved. and to have someone to be your boyfriend/girlfriend is a big thing. not just anyone can be your boyfriend/girlfriend but someone special.
this means letting go of initiative and not texting them to see if they'll text you back.
this sometimes means avoiding answering questions, and being a bit of a challenge to get a compliment from.
this sometimes means pushing and pulling the sexual tension a little bit.
yeah, we hate when we are challenged. but people who don't challenge us are just nice guys/nice girls who would be friends, but we aren't attracted to.
the mentality with dating is that there's 100's of people out there so I can set this guy/girl aside for a little bit and I won't lose anything out of that. so it's easy to take them for granted. but the idea that they can go at any time means you want to keep them there, even if you are 50/50 on whether you want them.
am I right or wrong? be honest.
oh and I give best answer to the answer with the best quality - not just on which one I agree with.
Most Helpful Girl
I really wouldn't define what you said has games.
I like to think of games has playing with someones feelings or emotions.
a) leading someone on
b) standing someone up
What you stated I would most definitely consider to be,
-The basic rules of dating-
a)We set a standard for ourselves.
b)We give room to allow the other person to reciporate if they are interested or not (this is how you can avoid being played if the other person is playing "games" with you.
We follow these rules has a way to truly see if this person has the same interest in us or not.0