I find SO MUCH dating advice on the internet to be focused on strategies and trickery, such as:
*playing "hard to get" (aka, not responding to the other person right away)
*being "cocky and funny" to stir her emotions and spark attraction
*not to give him/her too much attention so she knows you have options"
*wait until the 3rd date, or x amount of months, to be sexual
No wonder so many people find dating a chore. There's so much "is this really his/her personality or is this some strategy" to weave through.
Let's be honest; almost all of you reading this has been through this, and this is emotionally exhausting. :-X
My question is...why do you think so many people are into doing all this "tricks" and "strategies" instead of just being themselves and allowing things to unfold naturally between that person and the one they're seeing?
Be as detailed as you please in your response. Go anonymous if you feel you need the protection to open up fully.
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There IS lots of dating advice out there that seem to use "strategies" so to speak. I've seen some "dating expert/pickup artists" out there that do teach some fairly manipulative things. There are also guys (and some women) who have done the work and figured out how attraction works. I think that's what it's all about. Understanding how attraction works for the opposite gender and then putting your best foot forward. Understanding your role and responsibilities. Not being manipulative, or ingenuine, but cultivating and bringing out certain sides of yourself that the opposite gender will find attractive.1