In the dating world do singles lose dating value once they have kids?
- Neutral/ Either Love it or Shove it!Vote A
- Yes they are not considered IDEAL for manyVote B
- No not to me/ it's becoming the NormVote C
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I'm not being cruel, just truthful and obviously so.
A person who is single is ONE person, and they have only themselves to consider. Aside from work obligations, they can go where they want, when they want, and they aren't tied down to anything.
When a single person has a child, all dating considerations have to be filtered through the needs of that child. No babysitter? Can't go. Want to go away for the week as a couple? Can't be away from the kid that long. Want to have wild sex in the kitchen? Can't, the kid is around. I could go on, but you get the idea.
Then there are the parenting issues. If two people who are dating have different ideas about parenting, that can create a LOT of tension between them that wouldn't exist with no child.
Finally, many people simply don't want to have an instant family. They want to DATE and do "single" types of things and not have to worry about "family" issues.
That doesn't mean it's impossible for single parents to date, but you have to be kidding yourself to think it doesn't make things more difficult and complicated, and that it doesn't exclude you from dating a chunk of people who simply don't want to deal with all of that.2