So this summer I was on a trip where there were plenty of people my age, as well as a couple adults. One of the adults who I have known for almost 5 years, long story short we would hangout every night and cuddle and talk, It started as innocent cuddling until one night he started touching my face, and massaging my side. At that point I sort of held his hand a bit, just trying to get him to stop touching my face. after a few minutes I got up and left. The next day we talked about it a bit and he said he had feelings for me.
I realize not much happened but I still feel so guilty cause I liked it. He is 19 years older then me and is married with 2 kids. I feel like such a bad person.
I never thought I would have "feelings" for a married man twice my age. I feel so weird, and I don't know what to do anymore, I can't stop thinking about him. I don't want anything more to happen, but for some reason I miss the cuddling, and him being my friend. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Well I guess I know I am, but I don't know how to get ride of these feelings.
So I guess my question is what is the right thing to do? Not talk to him anymore?(that's what I'm doing at the moment), Talk to him with no physical contact? or is the sort of cuddling ok?
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You need to cut off all contact so you can move on. You cannot have your cake and eat it too, because for some reason many people always think you can. You really shouldn't have been cuddling in the first place. I can tell you right now, that is exactly why he got feelings for you. You led him on.
In a perfect world, he could be your cuddle/conversation buddy and nothing else, but we both know it doesn't work that way. It's usually all or nothing, especially when he's already stated that he likes you.1