So in the last 3 months I've been on dates with 3 different girls. They've all ended about the same, first date appeared to full great, make plans inn second date, and at the last minute something comes up and the date falls through and we basically end up not talking anymore. I'm assuming this means the for wasn't into me and just wanted to let me down without the drama. While rejection sucks, I honestly would much rather them just tell me straight up they're not interested and not even tease me with a second date. Now for my question, after the point where I know it's not going to work, is it OK to ask her why exactly she wasn't interested, just for future dating reference, or does that come off as desperate (something I'm not and definitely don't want to appear as)?
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It's different for every girl. Personally, I think that it's interesting that someone would ask.. and I wouldn't mind it so much. HOW they asked, would determine whether or not they're coming off as desperate. If you go "wait wait but why wouldn't you go out with me again?" that's kinda like uhh.. calm down. But if you approached her saying, "I'm not trying to ask you out again or change myself to be what you like, but could you let me know why exactly we didn't work out? Just for my own future references?" some girls might respond well to that, and others might just think it's weird anyways.
THAT BEING SAID. I don't always think it's necessary anyways (unless you're being rejected ALL THE TIME by EVERY SINGLE GIRL) because as cliche as it sounds, just be yourself, and the right person will like you for what you're doing and who you are.0