Gonna try to make this short as possible
I meet a girl who is 22yrs old and I'm 25 (very religious but she still likes to go out drinking)
We begin texting and chatting everyday followed by hanging out
She tells me she doesn't want a relationship but she is very interested in me and wants to get to know me
She begins getting comfortable around me and starts calling me babe,baby, love and starts breaking that physical barrier around me and leaning her head on my shoulder
We're both shy so we never held hands or kissed during the dinner and movie dates
She begins to joke with me how someday I will marry her
Out of the blue I notice the texting starts to stall and she starts becoming distant so I say to myself ("Maybe I need to step it up as a man and escalate things with her") so we go on our 10th date and I hold her hand and kiss her at the end of the night and she actually kissed me back
But after that kiss she becomes way more distant than ever and now we rarely text at all and haven't gone out in 2 weeks
I text her about it and tell her I notice she is being distant and ask her if I did something wrong and she goes on to explain to me how she noticed I was falling in love and she doesn't want to hurt me because she feels she isn't at that level yet and doesn't want to lead me on and tells me "It's not because of you because I'm sure you would make a great boyfriend but it's because of me I want to do things when I'm ready for it"
So I give her space and stop texting her and seeing her and after 5 days went by she text me again "Hey good morning! how are you?"
I reply with short answers and no longer flirt with her.
What should I do?
Should I ignore her text?
Why did she seemed so into me and freaked out in the end when I expressed my feelings for her?
Can a girl lose interest in a guy overnight?
What's my best chance besides "Moving on" to get her back?
Most Helpful Girl
No, I am very religious myself. There is probably more to that story. She sounds VERY interested in you actually. She can't stand not to talk to you or not hearing from you. Be patient with her, she wants to start REALLY slow. If you are the guy for her, you would wait, but continue friend zoning her until she is ready. Do not ignore her texts, but limit them. Keep her guessing, make her want/wait. Tease her a bit. I had that similar case myself and It took me 7 months before I actually agreed to a date with someone. I wanted to get to know him BEFORE I said yes to a date. I wanted to start as friends first. We then came to be close friends then best friends. I made sure I understood what I was feeling. I like to analyze what I am feeling and meditate. I asked myself during those 7 months: Do I like him? Do I love him? But as what, a brother or is he datable? Is he more like a friend to me? Then as I realized I couldn't go a day or hour without talking to him, I knew I wanted/needed him. Til this day, he is the one <3 Hope this helps1
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