People are always saying you'll find someone/the right guy/the one etc when you stop looking or aren't even interested, but surely one should be actively seeking guys out/dating as much as possible to increase their chances of a good relationship developing? what do guys and girls think about this age old topic...(I myself have recently "given up" on dating and closed an online dating account I had for lack of anything really successful happening, also I found I was starting to view every date as some sort of "potential" which others have said they also start to do as time goes on while being single...friends have since said this is a good move and once I start to think I don't want/need a guy in my life and forget about guys/dating then something will happen!?)...
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I'd say, do a bit of both! It might be fate you're seeing somebody in a certain place, but you have to be active and open. If you shut yourself down from contact with men, if you don't seem open to socializing, they won't come up. Heck, you can go up to them to talk!
After a while being single, you try to be positive and openminded and every date you'll have, you can think: he might be it! But if he isn't it, you'll be disappointed, less open to dating and the next date will almost feel like something you "have" to do.
I'd say: live your life, go out with friends, go places you wanna go, but be open for contact. If you see a guy you like and he doesn't approach you, find a way to approach him. You won't find someone if you don't talk to people :)0