This is going to sound weird, but every time I start going steady with a guy, I just start to feel really stupid. You know how the first month or so they're really sweet to you and they treat you great and act like you're the best thing in the world since chocolate pudding, but then after a while they're just kind of used to you and don't bother much? It always happens, but rather than me sitting back and dealing with the lack of affection, I always just panic about myself and break things off.
Something about me feels like I'm just holding them back from doing better and so I freak out and leave. It's like I feel guilty that they're stuck with me when there's so much more out there...if that makes sense. It's that I've been taught so much by people that guys don't really want to have to confine themselves to one girl and I'm so scared of being the one getting complained about to all of his friends.
Does anybody else have this problem? I don't know how to deal with it and I feel like such a weirdo.
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Its been said many times before on this forum but I'll say it again. You're hot. What you interpret as "used to you" is finally getting comfortable with you. Sure, you can spice things up a bit so things don't get too comfortable but too comfortable is not grounds to break off a good relationship.
You should trust your gut. You probably are holding back. But if you want to be/do better, you really have to want it. We as people on this forum can't give you that, that's up to you.4