'm 19, and there's this guy I'm really into, he's 26. We used to see each other back in May, after 2 weeks of talking, he disappeared for months. After 4 months, he decided to start talking to me again, yet I still felt like he was trying to sweet talk his way into my pants and maybe test how naive I am. I continued to talk to him in hopes that he would get to know me well enough and like me for my personality. He barely called me but he took me out to coffee and dinner once, and he didn't really ask questions to get to know me better. I didn't kiss him on the first date & ever since that date, he never called me ever again. I am a very down to earth & have a big heart with lots to offer, but I feel I ruined it with him because I was nervous in the beginning/inexperienced with guys, leaving him with a bad impression of me and also maybe I didn't play hard to get enough since I really liked him. He didn't get to see that side of me that everyone knows and loves. I wish I could have left a good enough impression to be his next girl. I wish I could go back in time and do things again, but better. How can I get over knowing I ruined it with a guy I like so much?
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The sad fact is, we all--and I mean ALL OF US--screw it up badly with at least one person when we're younger and we're still in the stage where we crush on people. It's an awful feeling. But, it happens.
So, pretty much all we can do is try to not regret our mistakes that much, and learn what to do next time. You'll meet other people. Even if this guy was literally one in a million, that means there's 300 guys *exactly* like him walking around the States.
And honestly, try not to think about it. I had a similar mishap, horrible, still regret everything I did. So, I try to blot it out, haha. Or follow Jack Sparrow's advice: "Close your eyes mate, pretend it's all a bad dream. That's how I get by."1