Hello It's friendship question but I want to hear anybody's opinion, especially guy's opinion. I'm a girl.
My friend and I are from very different socioeconomic background. We have different values, interest, opinions, taste of pretty much everything.This post is going to sound very superficial and you might think I am an horrible person writing this however I am going to state the facts to get the best advice from you guys.
I put very high importance on education and truly enjoy learning. I have medical background and starting my masters of law soon and she didn't finish her high school and is going through her online beauty therapy course. She claims that the education does not matter and the degree is just a 'paper'. (Sounds more convincing when steve jobs say it) I pretty much gave up on debating on this issue with her. She surprises and exhausts me with her ignorant opinions. What makes this worse is she is quite an opinionated person. She once made a racist comment and I said nobody should judge anyone based on their race or nationality. She told me that I judge dumb people so it's same. She also tried to convince me that orange colored moon is not full moon because full moon is white. I had to tell her 'full-moon' is matter of shape, not the color. This is not a joke. When we watched the movie 'looper', our conversation wasn't making any sense. Turns out, whole movie, she didn't know bruce willis and joseph golden levitt was the same person. There are so much more but this will give you an idea.
We have different view on dating as well. I am quite independent whereas she needs to have someone all the time. She dates all the working class guys. Nothing wrong with that. However, all the guys that I date, usually bankers, architects, lawyers, she says 'office guys are gay.' We never agree on who is attractive. never had. When it comes to relationship, intellectual connection is really important to me and I'd rather go for someone I can have good conversation then someone who is just 'hot'. she would usually call my guys 'yuck','boring'. Long story short, she likes bad boys and I like nice boys.
Music, Fashion, name it. we have very different taste.
Now when we go to dinner, pretty much everything started to bother me. Her non-existant table manner, texting whole time, conversation about only one topic- guys (interestingly enough, I get asked out more and have more guys around but I don't really enjoying talking about them whole time), her surprisingly stupid comments on things.
I can really get along with anyone and I do like getting along with a lot of people so I can learn more.
I don't want to be one of those people who thinks they are the best and live in their little own world. However this is getting really annoying now.
What do you think I should do? Do you think I'm superficial and over reacting or should do something about it?
Most Helpful Girl
I honestly don't think that it makes you a terrible person for not wanting to be friends with her anymore. Take a look at everything you're saying. You don't connect with her, you don't have any similar interests, its because you're not compatible as friends, that you don't like her anymore. not because you think she's lower class. Yes background greatly impacts behavior, so I can understand why your question was worded this way, but two people who have nothing in common will never be friends. Even if it's like a super hotshot person within your demographic. I think, in such situations, its natural for people to drift apart. You'll be busy with your life, and she'll be doing whatever she does in hers. Don't force an end to it, but also don't hold on so tightly to the friendship that you're forcing it's existence.1
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