So I have a date. He picked the place and we're meeting there. And I'm wondering this. If it's a first date, is it understood that he's paying, or should you split it or what?
I always feel like it's awkward to be like no, no, let me pay for my half, but I guess it depends on the guy.
He didn't offer to pick me up at all, so I'm thinking maybe he's the kind of guy who likes to go dutch? What do you think?
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Here's how I see it.
The guy should pay for the entire thing on the first date. The first date shouldn't be super expensive anyway. He should enjoy paying and proudly show his generosity with a nice tip too, rather than cutting out coupons, bickering about the service and sweating.
The second date, the guy should still pay for the entire thing as well, but on the third date, things should start "going dutch".
And the woman? She shouldn't just sit there and look like a spoiled brat while the guy pays. She should offer to pay (and the guy should then tell her it's okay because he's going to pay). She should express her thanks. And every once in a while, she should do a favor for him like making him cookies or something. Anything that shows gratitude is fine. Because if the woman says and does nothing while the man pays for several dates, the man will assume she is ungrateful brat who is using him.