You are dating a guy and really like him. In conversation, he says he does not want kids. Would you continue to date him and change your mind about having kids or do you dump him? Let;s say you were dating him for 2-3 years and he changes his mind or you just find out, or maybe thinking you can change his mind later? Women, what would you do? I am currently not dating anyone, but do not want kids and when is the appropriate time to tell a woman you do not want any kids?
Would you date a guy if he does not want kids?
What Girls Said 12
I think that's definitely something to be up front about from the start. If you're 100% decided, that's probably something she'll want to know right away. Depending on whether or not she wants kids, your feelings will either make you a great match or create an enormous conflict down the road. I don't see any benefit to waiting to tell her.1
No I wouldn't, because we don't have the same goals in life. Having children at some point is super important to me.0
Date him yes! MArry him NO!... NEver ever for one second think that you can change someone of their way of thinking. IF for us it's hard to change our mind when it's set on something and we I mean WE are multitaskers and smarter than men in so many ways... it's hard and most likely he will not change his mind for you. BEcause it's one thing that he loves you. But kids are a completely different train to ride on. Because he is the one that it's going to need to spend time with them and love them and teach them. SO it's his decision and its not a good idea to force it.
Having kids for me isn't the most important thing in the world but I'd want a partner who is open to the possibility. That being said if they're completely against it then I think I'd have to second guess us being together. It isn't fair to think that your partner will just change their mind for you.
I think you should make that clear from the beginning lest you want a constant argument with a partner. Also, it'll make things very difficult if you don't tell them from the start. Both you and her will be annoyed and confused if you don't see eye to eye but the earlier you make things clear the earlier a compromise can be made.0
I wouldn't get serious with him or marry him. But id date him a little while for fun0
That's what I prefer. I would date him... - My intentions are to have a long lasting healthy (if possible) relationship. Without kids, makes it even better.
I would tell her on the second or perhaps, third date. Some girls would figure the guy would change his mind down the road. -_-"1
I think you should be open and upfront about it. This is an important topic and couples do break up over this issue quite often. There are many women out there who have the same goals in life like you... just keep searching for them until the right one comes along.
If you have a minute, I would be curious what your thoughts would be about my question. You are the same age group as my date. Thanks in advance and good luck!0
I don't want kids1
It depends on my prerogative. If I was looking to settle down and really felt a connection with the guy, I would probably call it off and move on. If I just enjoyed his company and hanging out, but nothing too serious and couldn't see a life with him, then I would still date him.
Family is important to me0
I wouldn't date him for long
I'd never get serious with him since I know I eventually want kids0
What Guys Said 2
Many times guys start with not wanting kids (when they're rather young and are easily convinced 10 years later.0
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