For the shallow world we live in you would think really attractive people have all the luck with getting attention from the opposite gender. But it seems as if that’s not the case. In real life and on GAG it seems as though good looking guys and girls seem to have a hard time finding someone. I see questions with cute girls on here asking why guys don’t ever seem to consider them as girlfriend material yet they all think they are hot (guys are visual as you all know so we would all like a hot girlfriend, looks DO play a part). And the guys on here who are considered cute by a lot of girls say they have zero luck with women and can’t get a date. Yet all the average looking folks (and below average) seem to have no problem at all.
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"Yet all the average looking folks (and below average) seem to have no problem at all."
I don't think this is true. I think that in general, finding someone who you find attractive, who finds you attractive, and who you're compatible enough to have a good relationship can be quite difficult, regardless of what you look like.
I think that when you're more attractive, you generally have more opportunities to find that person, since more people are attracted to you and willing to give you a chance.
When a person is very attractive but have difficulty getting into a relationship, or complain about not getting attention from the opposite gender, I think there's often a few things happening:
1. They *are* getting attention from the opposite gender, but it isn't from people they themselves are attracted to, so they don't "count" it. For example, I hear girls complain that they can't get a boyfriend and that the only guys who flirt with them or ask them out are "ugly guys/losers"; well, they're still getting more attention from the opposite gender than girls who don't get flirted with or asked out at all.
2. Along those same lines, they have very high standards. A lot of people who know they're hot are unwilling to consider people who they consider "below" them. They may put a lot more emphasis on superficial things (looks, status, etc.) rather than personality and compatibility (which are more likely to lead to a meaningful, long-lasting relationship).
3. Some people think good looks are all it takes. If they know they're attractive, they may put less effort into improving other aspects of themselves. People may be drawn to them initially based on their appearance, but that isn't always enough to keep people interested, and their other characteristics may drive people away (e.g. bad or boring personality, bad behavior, entitlement, etc.).
It might be true that some people feel intimidated by people who are very attractive, but that they never get attention from the opposite gender? I'm not buying it. Especially because I've heard a lot of girls complain about how no guys are interested in them and they can't get a boyfriend, but when you probe them about it, they actually get quite a bit of attention from guys, it's just that those guys aren't the guys that they *want* attention from. And if people of the opposite gender aren't interested in you, it's NOT because you're "too attractive", there are probably other things about you that turn people off.