So my boyfriend and I had been dating again about 6 months ago and have been official for about 3 months (even though we have about almost two years worth of history). I always knew he had dating profiles (he's actually had them for quite some time) but he told me he didn't use them. Things had been going SO GREAT, that I decided to just look for heck's sake, and saw he had used the main profile that day. Granted, on his profile is said "just looking for friends, already in a relationship." and his status was "in a relationship" but it still bothered me. I asked him about it that night and we came to a conclusion.. He said he would delete them and that I meant more to him than those sites. He even claimed he didn't even care about those sites. Next day, his demeanor changed and he told me he wouldn't be deleting them and this is who he was and would not be changing. I told him it made me feel like he had one foot out the door and he told me it was more of an ego boost, harmless type thing. I promptly ended the relationship that day. I'm upset, and felt it was a decision I was almost forced to make, but I want to make sure I've made the right decision. What do you guys think?
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You did the right thing. Any guy that needs a consistent ego boost from other women, are very likely to stray and cheat at some point. That's one of the correlations psychologists have found to cheating men anyway, that they were typically men who needed their ego stroked constantly from women other than their significant other. The "rush" of knowing another woman wanted them. It's too risky, especially considering how early in a relationship he's needing this. Everyone wants an ego boost from time to time. But happily committed people get it from the flattery of a look or innocent flirt at the grocery store from time to time. Not from creating multiple dating profiles and actively meeting others. Your boyfriend is insecure and needs constant female attention to feel good about himself. Remember that when you feel tempted to take him back (because he will try to convince you). Other men are more secure than that, and statistically less likely to cheat on you.0