My older sister was crushing on this guy on her course a few months ago. He asked me out though and I asked her if she was fine with it because I knew she was into him. She said she was totally cool with it so we've been dating since then.
And then yesterday out of the blue she tells me that's it's really of me to date him and I should break up. Why is she doing that? He is really great, I don't want to break up with him. I was raped when I was 14 and this is seriously the first I've been really happy with a guy. But on the other hand I don't want to hurt my sister. I really don't know where to start in solving this?
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You need to tell your sister that you never wanted to hurt her, and that you specifically asked her first to make sure it was okay, because you DO care so much about her. But she gave the okay, and now she's changing her mind, and you simply can't break up with a good guy for that reason. She needs to accept that she had her opportunity to stop this before you were attached, and didn't, and now it's too late.
There are consequences to people's actions, and by her not saying how she really felt, now she has to deal with those consequences.0