I was deeply in love 7 months ago but got rejected, betrayed and backstabbed by my ex... this lead to severe depression until the point where, I wanted to end my life. I feel as if I AM OVER MY EX and no longer in love with him but I still haven't got over the heartbreak. Episodes of mistreatment keep popping up in my head. I suffer from feelings of worthlessness which leads to low self-esteem. So many things took place in that relationship, which lead me to suffer. He was my first love and I often fear that he is my last. I feel like he is "livin' it up" and having a great life with different girls but I can't take that option to go guy-hunting because it is extremely difficult for me to get a boyfriend. I never figured out why but I have been to 10 different schools and not one guy has ever approached me. I have asked guys out but got coldly rejected and now I never ever ask guys out. The only attention I get is online and I'm sick of hearing the same line, " I would date you, if I knew you in real life." Easy for you to confess through a screen! *sigh* I'm sick of online dating and I'm ready to date like an adult. I feel like the only way to get over the pain is if I go and date men who know my worth. Men who know how to treat a lady. My wife material qualities are going out of the window because my belief in love is decreasing day-by-day to the point where I think it's MEANT for me to be single! Maybe that one guy was a sign that dating isn't for me. (Why was it so easy for him to let me go?)
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It is OK. By the time you will forget and not feel anything.
Dont look for guys right now, Focus on yourself, improve yourself, love it and accept it and learn to never allow anyone to abuse/hurt it again.
I can see how hurt you feel but whatever I say right now will never make you feel any better.
Stop feeling like you are not worth it, because you are worth it but he is not. You have to say to/remind yourself million times that you are worth it and why you think you are worth it. You have to remind yourself why he wasn't worth it ! You don't want to end up with someone who doesn't deserve you. I myself prefer to be single all my life than being with someone who treats me like trash.
I will tell you one thing "no one is worth your tears". It is OK to have a scar, to be careful next time and not let just anyone in.
Dont be that much depressed. Moving on, changing to better is a good revenge, trust me . If you show him that you are not happy! well, he is enjoying seeing you upset, stop. don't fill his ego, make him regret leaving you, make him get back to you begging then tell him to f off, you can't settle for anything less than what you deserve.
How to do that? Well by changing to better, being confident, happy and knowing what you deserve.
Good people don't deserve bad people at all.
Save the good person for someone who deserves that good person, someone who will stick for you, love you for you, someone who will never want to upset you, who he runs after you, who he asks you out, makes the effort himself, who calls you himself, not who you run after.
You suffer emotionally because you depend on relationships for your happiness. Stop doing that.
A spa as a start can change your mood, get busy, get out with friends, don't go sleep around, just have a good time with friends, shop, swim, do some activities and meet new people.
Dont worry you will get over him, he is just some guy.1