I've been seeing this woman for about 2 months. We have grown close way to quick and didn't do the slow get to know each other dating thing. We both jumped in head first and I totally fell for her. I've never dated or got close to her type of woman. The I'm good looking and I get what I want type. So we always seem to but heads at least 2 times a week...sometimes yelling matches.
Then there is the part where she has dated nothing but controlling abusive guys so she always has her guard up and thinks I'm going to become that way. I've been more than patient with all her demands and whines in our relationship. Even stopped talking to a good friend because she was jealous. But yet she can do anything she wants even talking to her exes and wanting to see them. Some of them in jail even. I helped her get her own vehicle so she didn't have to ride the bus anymore to work. Yet she wants to use it to see exes.
She continues to talk with her ex before me that choked her and mentally beat her up. This Guy is in a mental facility and just got out of jail for multiple duis
So last night I had enough and told her that I'm going to talk to my friends if she gets to keep in contact with exes who have beat her down. Then she told me that I needed to leave so I did. Tonight she posts on her fb that she went out with a old Guy coworker and had a blast and can't wait to see him again.
The problem is that I have fell in love with her and can see a great life if the other stuff wasn't there. Maybe I'm a sucker or maybe I'm wrong but the relationship feels too one sided. Maybe I thought I could show her that their are nice guys but she seems to like garbage.
What to do?
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'The problem is that I have fell in love with her and can see a great life if the other stuff wasn't there.' But the other stuff is there and it's obviously causing problems. Just going by what you've written (which obviously isn't the full story as no one person can ever present the full story) I think she's enjoying being with someone who treats her well but at heart she will always go for the bad boys. She's being selfish, jealous and unreasonable. You deserve better than that. The relationship is too one sided and if she needs to be educated on how nice guys can be she isn't ready for one. I get that you love her. But you need to love yourself enough to walk away from something you've recognised is unhealthy.5