So I was out with a girl friend last week and I met this cool guy. We exchanged numbers and have so far talked every day, gone out on 2 dates, and have kissed already.
Now, I was under no illusion that I was the only person he was probably going out with. I may not like the casual dating thing, but I'm not dumb. So after our date on Wednesday I asked him if he would want to go out tonight (Friday) and he said he had a lot of work to do but would want to go out on Saturday.
So I was shopping yesterday and ran into my friend who I was with when I met him and she told me that he had texted her and asked her out for Friday. I told her that he didn't do anything wrong but it would hurt my feelings if she went out with him because she knows I like him. She is going out with him anyway, but that's another topic.
I guess with the whole casual dating thing, everyone knows deep down that you aren't the only one they are seeing, but I think girls want to feel like they are the only ones. If he wants to go out with other girls, that's fine, but I wish he would pick someone I I wasn't friends with. He knows we are friends, we were together when he met us!
I guess my question is, was it sleazy of him to ask out someone he knew was my friend and basically lie-by-omission about it? Do I have the right to be a little irritated?
Also, what should I say the next time I hang out with him? Should I mention that I know they went out? I don't want to seem jealous, but I don't want to be a doormat either...
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Well I wouldn't say it was sleazy of him to ask out girls who were friends, but it is a little insensitive. What would you do if you met two guys who were friends and wanted to try dating both of them casually?
Yeah I think he could've handled it better. I would've been upfront that I was dating both of you and asked what you thought of it. Now I think generally people would rather not know who else their date is going out with and when. I think if you are really bothered by this then you should talk to him about it, but don't blow it out of proportion.1