I'm 27 year old female and I hate going on dates! I've had very few positive experiences of dating anyway but about a year ago I had a particularly bad experience that really destroyed my confidence. Before that I didn't enjoy dates but I still went on them viweing them as a means to an end rather than something enjoyable, but since this incdent I've found the idea of going on one nerve wrecking. I want to have a relationship, marriage, kids and I do realize that I do need to go on dates to get these.
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Well, a date is a means to an end. The "end" is a relationship. The date is the means to getting into one. That said, it should not stop you from enjoying it.
The more detail, the better. If you feel okay sharing what happened that destroyed your confidence, please do (also, are you more outgoing or reserved/introverted?). If not, I will simply say that maybe you should take some time away from dating. Look at yourself and find what you need to work on to increase your confidence. Write down things you want in a boyfriend, too.
After you've done that, go on some practice dates with an acquaintance, a co-worker, or anyone you have friendly interactions with, but you're not best friends with them. That way, you're out with someone who you know enjoys your presence, but you still get to have the excitement of getting to know someone better.
Most importantly though, don't force yourself to enjoy dating. Guys don't like it when girls pretend/force themselves to enjoy the dates. That is a confidence-killer too.1