I broke up with my boyfriend on Friday. He did not treat me very well and I didn't want to be with him anymore because I didn't think he would ever change.
However, I basically told him it was coming, and he was still completely shocked. He was begging me not to leave him and made the whole thing very sad. He texted me the next day saying "I just want you to know I have been thinking about you" I responded with, "I have obviously been thinking about you too. I'm sorry it all had to come to this, but I hope you understand why I need to be alone."
He then was drunk texting me that night asking to see me. I didn't respond.
The next day he texted me some horoscope thing that explained why our signs are compatible and should be together. I then said "I know this hurts, I am sorry. I am going through this as well. I don't want to be a stranger to you, but I can't handle the texts I am getting from you. I feel like you are not respecting my need to be alone right now."
Then last night, he just texted me saying "goodnight ally" and that was it. I didn't respond. I deleted my Facebook so he couldn't contact me on their either.
I feel horrible that he is this hurt about it. I didn't want to be enemies, or be one of those childish couples that acts like the other person never existed. I was hoping to keep things civil, and if we saw each other, we could be nice and say hi. But that was all. But he doesn't seem to be getting it. I don't know what to do.
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Good, I remember your earlier questions, I was hoping you would breakup with him, because he didn't treat you well at all.
Ha, of course he was shocked, he gotten away with so much earlier, he didn't think you'd ever follow through. And because you did, he doesn't know how to process his raw emotions.
Look, I get you want to be a sweet, kind person. But you have a right to be free of harassment from him. You warned him, he CHOSE not to listen. He is trying to guilt you, make you feel like you are a horrible person. You aren't. It is his problem, he needs to deal with his emotions, and leave you out of it. Continue doing what you can to avoid contact with him.