Basically, I'm gonna start dating now. I don't want to waste time in a relationship that won't work out eventually.
On the first date, simple talking, testing our chemistry together, how well we can converse, communicate, etc.
On the second date, we discuss our plans for the future, what we hope to achieve, plans for marriage, kids, etc. we also check beforehand if our personalities, cultures, day to day lives, and overall family life would be compatible. for personality, rather than finding similar interests, I would look for a similar reason behind our interests and a similarity in the way we analyze things. this means we can find new things that we would enjoy together. In fact, I think this may be a good way to make friends in general. For day-day lives, we can't be together if one person is always asleep or has a completely different schedule. Also, what if one person is allergic to many different types of foods that the other person likes? I think, to a limited degree, we could also talk about health as well. For culture, I would try to find out about a similar view of the world, ethics, morals, relationship with family and what they are like, etc. If we are pretty similar, I think that should be reason enough for a third date.
Finally, on the third date, I would want to TALK about our sexual compatibility. Many marriages end or become strained because of sexual incompatibility. That's why I think it's important to be very open and get this out of the way. I would want to discuss our sex drives, what we find attractive in each other and how easy it would be to maintain that, what we are attracted to in general and why, any particular kinks/fetishes that we have and how important fulfilling them is, what we masturbate to, etc. Basically, we are trying to find out whether our sex lives would be good in the future. And if we happen to be comfortable with each other, I think that would mean we can have a fourth date.
After all this, if everything seems to work out, I would want to continue dating normally because I know that these specific problems won't come up in the future.
So if I'm trying to find someone I can marry and not eventually break up with, do you think this is a good method? Would you use it?
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Some people do know right away that they want to get married. Try going to churches.
Also dating sites have an option to choose your intention of "looking for marriage" or "dating" or "nothing serious"...
If you want marriage it's okay to tell the people upfront that eventually that is what your goal is.
Go ahead and tell the girl your goals.
It's true the girls that you will scare off will be the ones who are skittish or uncertain about their own feelings towards marriage.
Realistically speaking though, I find dating to be like a jungle safari, it's rather perilous, no matter how much you pack for the trip you are still unprepared for monsoons, it's risky, it's exciting and you never know if you are going to be attacked by a tiger or if you are going to discover some lost treasure.2