Is that strange for a guy? After 3 weeks of dating he sat me down and told me everything he disliked about me. Then he asked me to tell him what I disliked about him.
For me, they were little things... like that he didn't respond to text messages or he hated coffee, fruits, vegetables etc.
For him, they were personality points... He said he didn't understand my sense of humor (even though he had been laughing at my jokes for weeks?), that he didn't like when I said I miss you (because that meant the time he spent with me was inadequate) and he didn't like how sometimes when I got really excited or when I really wanted something I'd pretend to act like a kid.
I walked out of the room wondering how he ever liked me... he named other personality traits. It's like he didn't want me to be me... Then as time went by I noticed things like "I don't like when girls wear makeup," "I don't like when girls wear earrings," and "I like when girls wear [this] kind of clothing" and "I don't like perfume unless it smells like [this]".
I feel like there are some major red flags there. It's like he doesn't like anything I do. After 3 weeks of dating he also said he expects me to help out around his apartment... like if he makes me dinner then he expects me to put the dishes in the dishwasher. Seemed strange for not having dated that long. He also said he doesn't believe in honeymoon periods and for him what you see is what you get and if I don't like him now then I won't ever.
A week later he bought me flowers, a necklace and two weeks later he invited me to go home and meet his parents.
Something isn't sitting right with me with this guy. He also never talks about himself. He's super closed off emotionally.
- Red flag, time for him to goVote A
- Not a red flag, but something to be notedVote B
- Don't worry about itVote C
- OtherVote D
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lol, I would say so. Yeah, sure, we ALL have things we don't like in our partners, but most of us, unless these things are harmful or disruptive, we just overlook or don't worry about it. Only a narcissist would make a list of things "wrong" with others. And what he really does expect you to do is hang your head low and agree you have all these bad things, and beg him to forgive you. Other guys here on GAG who are also narcissist with highly overly inflated egos will agree with this man and say you should grovel and beg for his approval.
A woman did something like that to me, she was expecting me to do the same thing. Instead, what I did was said something along "Oh, well okay, you're right So, I guess I don't live up to your standards, time for us to breakup and go our own ways, take care". She was shocked that I did that, literally her mouth was agape. I ignored her calls and never saw her again.
You should do the same that I did, pretend to agree with his list and say goodbye - forever.1
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