Basically colored guys just don't have much social status. I think that is really the gist of it - girls will go for the White guy almost every time - even the Black or the Asian girl. It's a matter of marrying up, sometimes irrespective of whether true love exists or not. You can give me some euphemistic reply like it comes down to personality/culture, but I call it as I see it.
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Okay...most black women are not dating white men, first of all. And its really not about that. I can see where a very short sighted view would lead to that conclusion, and society definitely doesn't give much credit to men of color (well, some men of color), but I don't think you can logically conclude that every situation is simply a matter of "marrying up." you're discounting the psychological reality of having an entire life of experiences and a background, upbringing, which influence a taste and comfort in each individual that may not line up with how YOU or society as a whole see someone's "natural match" along the terms of race. And you're also assuming that they go for interracial exclusively. I personally date interracially exclusively, but not everyone does. What if they were previously in love with someone of a "lesser race" ? Were they interested in marrying up then or did the light bulb just suddenly switch on when white guy walked in the room? Or is it possible that things just didn't work out and they happened to find happiness and love with someone of another race?
It does come down to personality and culture. There are a lot of white people to whom I am not attracted and we have nothing in common culturally. A lot of them would already be seen as lower class than I am (not being mean, just realistic) and I am black, on an individual level, or specific to their local culture and environment.
And there's a double standard that may be happening here, a very skewed perception on your part. You're only focusing on the woman, but a man makes just as much a decision to date or marry someone. If you're talking about image and overall perception in society, black women are seen as lower than white women or Asian women. Are white men purposely trying to lower themselves by marrying a black woman? And are black men trying to marrying up as well? It is true that many white men are turned off by the perception of black women as less than in society, and influenced by that, even if subconsciously. Men are not exempt from consideration of any social implications in dating or marriage. Exactly the opposite.
(Unless you mean, it is just how the relationship is perceived, as marrying up, and not a core motive of the people involved.)
I think there is some truth to what you're saying in some cases. I don't think my own preferences are really tied to that (upbringing, comfort, culture, phyiscal taste, etc. for me) but I do know that how much value you attach to people in society does drastically influence their attractiveness. However, that doesn't change the fact that twice as many black men are with white women, dating or married, and black men have a horrible reputation in society. Asian men are higher up in social status, yet they are often rated as the least desired and attractive men in American society. SO. Logic leads us to understand that while social status affects things, there must be other things happening in how we view race/sex.0