A guy I met recently hinted that he'd like to take me out. He's a bit shy, and suggested that if we did go out somewhere, he'd like me to pick the place.
My dilemma is that I'd feel like a very ungrateful date if I made him pay, especially if I picked where we were going. I would feel much more comfortable showing my thanks by paying for at least half. However, I always hear that when a woman pays, she's signaling that she's not interested in being more than friends, and that isn't the message I want to send either. Would paying be a mistake?
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I'm a shy person, and I've at least thought about asking the girl to pick a place before.
For me personally, I don't care about the cost unless you're asking to go to a 5 star restaurant or something. It's more about making you feel comfortable and taking you to a place you'd like to go instead of guessing and hoping I picked right.
If I were the guy, I'd have no trouble paying for both of us, and I would not want you to feel ungrateful just because you picked. I'm the one that asked you out and want to get to know you better.
Just out of curiosity, where did/would you pick?1