Does someone's past count when dating them?

Say you meet someone and they seem great so you date and decide to become boyfriend and girlfriend and fall in love and then a few months down the road you find out some stuff about their past that makes you view them differently and change how you feel about them a bit. Is this something you should just try to look past because it was before they knew you existed or can you hold it against them? Can it even be a deal breaker?


Most Helpful Girl

  • Like the other poster said, it's based on what you found out. If it's something you can live with, don't worry about it. If it's not something you can deal with, maybe you should reconsider the relationship. Consider a few things: Does it affect the person now? Does it affect you, or will it harm you? Are you putting yourself in danger? Etc


What Girls Said 4

  • people change.

  • yes it does. A lot of what happens in the past will happen again in the future. Please answer mine I need advice link

  • Unless they fall under any of these categories, then it's not a deal breaker for me

    1. Murder

    2. Rapist

    3. No longer a virgin

    So far all the guys I have dated have passed all three bars with flying colors.


What Guys Said 2

  • It just depends on how big or horrible this past maybe, I've been put in a situation like this as well. If you really love the person as much as you say you do, it shouldn't hold you back from being with them.

  • Yes it does