Would you ever date a coworker? And if so have you?

[Anonymous]

Assuming that there is no direct problems from the employer themselves, would you ever consider dating a coworker? If you have, how did it turn out? Feel free to elaborate below

I would never date a coworker

I would consider dating a coworker

I have dated a coworker and would do so again

I have dated a coworker but would never do so again

[SteelyMcBeam]

Heh, if you have a day job how else are you supposed to meet women? I can only think of going to the gym (bad idea since all the guys there are taller and more muscular than I am) or to night clubs (women have no interest in starting relationships there, but I guess I like dancing with women because it's the most intimacy I've ever had) or running into women while shopping on weekends (stupid idea because women don't want to date strangers).

I was trying to go after a coworker but I don't know if she has any interest in me anymore and am afraid to be direct because maybe that could be used as a sexual harassment charge if she doesn't (I've heard stories about people losing their jobs over stuff like that).

The problem is I work really far away from her at my company (she is the morning receptionist and my desk is like way near the cafeteria), so I do not really have business going to her other than to say "good morning" when entering the building or leaving on an errand during lunch hour.

I thought maybe she was interested in me because she was the first person to add me as a linked-in contact like a week after I started and used to smile a lot to me (I think the second person to add me to their contacts came like half of a month later).

I asked if she got lonely sitting out away from everyone or if she was often busy, and she said it could get pretty desolate so I said I would keep her company during lunch or something. Turns out she eats lunch an hour AFTER everyone else does because receptionists don't really get lunch hours AND she has to wait for the afternoon receptionist to show up to take over while getting food. The second receptionist is an ICE QUEEN who made it very clear that she is great friends with the morning receptionist and that she hates it when she doesn't get to share lunch with her because of people interrupting their short time together or something like that. Anyway, eating lunch an hour late was terrible because all of the best food is already gone and everything is cold and I was kind of tempted to ask her to go out and get food with me somewhere else, but the ICE QUEEN has >2,000 HP and a Freeze spell at level 3 so there's no way I'd be able to get around that on my own.

I said that I would keep company with her again during lunch but to make matters worse she politely said "you don't have to do that", which was said in an ambiguous sort of way that leads me to believe she really has no interest in me and doesn't want anything to do with me.

I kind of let some time pass without eating with her or anything (kind of feel foolish being the third wheel in girl talk anyway), but I cannot help but feel she was the girl who showed the most interest in me. I recently asked her twice to join a group outing to go see Wreck-it Ralph (twice because it was rain-dated due to scheduling conflicts) but she said she was too busy both times.

I guess she was just being nice and wasn't interested in being more than acquaintances =(

[WhiteSteve]

i would do it again, I suppose. I wouldn't necessarily recommend it, but I wouldn't say absolutely not. you just have to realize that the strong odds are that it's going to go sour and one of you will have to quit. I guess one thing to consider, though, is that I've never dated a co-worker at a "serious" job. it was all my high school, college, and post-college-and-not-ready-to-stop-being-a-kid-yet jobs. I worked at an ice cream window of a restaurant, a couple bars, and a dual Abercrombie&Fitch/Hollister gig (back when that wasn't a complete embarrassment...just a medium embarrassment. but I can't argue with the amount of hot girls I worked with.)

so, in short, a bunch of joke jobs but jobs where I worked with a lot of people hired for their looks. waitresses, bartenders, shot girls, and you all know the deal with A&F/HCo. I met my long-term HS/early college girlfriend at work, and then when we broke up I went on an absolute man-whoring world tour at the aforementioned jobs. I probably hooked up with 30 or 40 coworkers total (don't judge, that's over the course of 15 years, and that includes girls I didn't sleep with too) and I'd say mayyyyyyyybe 6 or 7 didn't end with some sort of hard feelings and/or awkwardness. either somebody is more serious about it than the other one, or they both want the same things but just plain old don't work out...either way, it's generally messy, and the rumor mill starts grinding with your other co-workers. but all my jobs had high turnover rates anyway, so your slate was pretty clean every 6 months or so. but I've never worked anywhere with cubicles and sh!t, so I don't know how it works in a real office.

wicked long story, short...don't rule it out altogether, you could meet your husband/wife at your job. just don't do it if you can't handle the consequences of a fallout, because that's what the most likely result is. as general rule, the more casual, the better.

[whattothink]

Even though I wasn't supposed to I did all the time (being the boss not so good to date the minions). As I have moved up through the ranks I have stopped that though. The bad side other than when you break up, is since a couple guys knew they led me on just so they would get "special treatment". As in I looked out for them and was their advocate for certain things they didn't want to deal with. I never gave preferential treatment so as to not arrouse suspcion however. Do kinda miss those days though. Got some good eye candy at work now lol.

[glitterberryalisa]

depends on where I'm working but more than likely I would. right now I work in retail with ALL girls so that'd be a no lol but when I worked at walmart where its a big enough place that you might not see that person very often it would be fine. I almost did date a coworker there.

[Anonymous]

there is a guy who works in a different department from me, we haven't dated but we f*** occasionally and talk afterward. No one at work suspects a thing lol. I told my manager I want to f*** him too and we havnt done it yet but we have been texting each other talking about it.

[HandsomeRaj]

I voted 'A' cause I never would BUT for me the term 'coworker' is a very specific term.

I generally head 2-4 companies in the same group (till I didn't go self employed) so that was a pretty senior position by itself. I'd never date anyone who'd work in any company of my group, but however, I didn't have a problem in fraternizing with someone who does not directly or indirectly report to me. Again I've never done that unless the person has already quit the organization ;) post which yes I've dated, hooked up etc

[GGGGGG_unit]

its only good when its good days. but fighting is never good especially you have to work together and then some jealousy and it does affect your performance. and when you do end up breaking up in bad terms, its hard to get over someone you have to see and work with everyday. or it gets worse, one of you has to leave. so its better you stay away from that.

[NoGamesGuy]

Some companies have a ethical clause stating you are not allowed to date or have any fraternization with work mates.

I know that bosses sometimes encourage dating, especially in the field of employment I was in. It is hard to have a mate that would understand the possibility of being on call 24/7 and not knowing when I would be home.

As it stands I can't date an employee, although in a former job I had dated a employee.

[Asker]

Oddly enough the on call job is very similar to my own. I can work literally anywhere from 4-12 hours, at any given hour, any day. I'm pretty sure it played a large component in why my previous girlfriend broke up with me, but all my coworkers are a tight knit group to deal with the stress

[RedSmartie]

I guess I would consider dating a coworker, but only if he was a really good match for me. I have a co-worker who likes me right now and I'm not interested and I really don't know how to handle it. Dating in the workplace is usually bad with a few exceptions.

[1cubby1]

i don't recommend it, but if you like someone you like someone. I don't think id do it again though because its irritating to have to see someone when you don't want to, like after a fight or something or just seeing them that much period.

i worked a 9 to 5 plus overtime Monday through Friday

[Dionysos]

Gotta be careful dating coworkers. Make sure there's no supervisory relationship, conflicts of interest etc. Then make sure both people are able to keep their feelings in perspective so that whether it works or not it won't wind up with one or both of you needing a new job.

[mshaker]

I would do it. But it would be hard because every woman in the office flirts with me... And I don't do it back. But sometimes I like to play LOL

But I'm pretty sure that if I did have some1 I was dating from work, I wouldn't flirt with other woman, I would just have to make sure she didn't catch them doing it to me... lol

[Anonymous]

I currently am in the early stages of dating a coworker.

It depends on the people. If you're both able to be adult and not let it affect your work, and it doesn't violate HR, there's no reason to let work hold you back from someone you feel like you could have a great connection with. But this does require both people to maintain professionalism, even if things go bad.

[JennyBenny318]

I have before. But then I dumped him because I felt no connection. I felt pretty weird because when it was my birthday, 2 weeks into when we were dating, he bought be $200 Coach boots. Then a couple of weeks later, I dumped him while we were at work and he got so mad. He started to throw things around and then I got scared. I told my boss that I needed to not work when he was working. (We worked at a pet store.) then I heard he had quit and then moved back to CA.

[JennyBenny318]

I was 24 at that time.

[Anonymous]

Don't do it. There is too much drama and gossip that will come out of it. I have been there and done it plenty of times. I still haven't learned my lesson. It gets so awkward when things go south. UUUgghh, just don't do it no matter how much the temptation is there.

[Anonymous]

hmmm that seems to be my current dilemma. A coworker is attempting to pursue me in that way. Though I am not dating him because I simply don't find him attractive in that way, the jury is still out on whether I would date within the office if I did find someone worth dating there. However I do note it would have to be in the event that we won't hover around each other during the day because I really do need my space.

[Anonymous]

I haven't dated a coworker, but if there's chemistry I would definitely consider dating a coworker. But only if there wasn't some sort of corporate policy against it...

Currently I have a crush on a guy I work with, there's no problem since we don't work for a corporation.. But there are other conflicting issues right now.

[MWalsh89]

I wouldn't, partly because should something happen then working together would just be awkward. Then to top it off, you'd never really get space from each other, and would just be overwhelmed. That's the way I see it anyway.

[snowangle]

I have dated a coworker before, but that turned out to be a mistake. Not because we worked together, but because he turned out to be a big liar who just tried (and failed) to get in my pants. :P

So sure, I might date a coworker again.

[ElleLee]

well, if you are anything like me then there should be no problems. Just keep your work professional and any issues private. good luck! :)

[Light_Yagami]

No I make it a personal rule not to sh*t where I eat

(obviously if I'm out drunk on a work social I'm game)

[MissAM]

Agree.

[omgwtflol]

I have never dated a coworker. I feel like its a conflict of interest but I might be open to dating one if he was my type.

[Anonymous]

I would never. I'm somewhat insecure with these things. Like them telling co workers about our business

If we break up it would be awkward :( these type of things usually don't end well

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[pips1]

yes I id serval times one lasted over 5 years but I wouldn't try and do it again maybe sereprate buildings

[BCRanger10]

You can't help where you meet someone. I'd give it a shot if I felt we could be a good fit for each other.