I hate to sound like some mentally messed up lad, but I just get this sort of bad feeling whenever I'm dealing with dating. I'm 21, never tried dating until I about two years ago, fell head over heels for this one girl, and it ended horribly because I was so naive and inexperienced. I haven't gone on a date since, in 10 months.
It's not that I can't get girls to smile or talk to me, It's just, whenever it's moving towards a date, or anything like that--I get this sort of sick feeling, like a guy who's been told he has an 18 page term paper due tomorrow and needs three root canals done. Basically, this sort of slightly panicky, sick feeling, anticipating all the games and headaches I went through before.
Is there anyway to get over it? Most guys seem to have no worries about dates... me, I've done this thing now like four times, where a girl is basically saying, "Yeah, let's go out!" And I panic, and stop talking to her so I can breathe normally again.
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The opinion I would give my friends is man up.
You're inexperienced so really no book or step by step guide is going to help you. What you have to remember is that there's only one way to get that experience and that is trial, error, perfect.
And what's happened now is that you've created some perception that is dominating you. It's like when you're a kid and you think there's a monster behind the door and the longer you leave it to open that door the more the monster grows. This monster I can imagine probably seems like the hydra at this point. But this is where as a man we need to step up and bite the bullet, you know your problem so handle it bro. Next time you're in a position with a girl where it's moving towards that date point and you're starting to panic, step away from the moment and process everything, think of what your normal reaction would be, think of the experience you're potentially missing out on, think of the worst thing that could happen and think of the best thing that could happen.
It's your life and if you don't live it , no one else will...0