OKay so, let me start this off.
So I've known this Jewish girl since high school. We actually started talking about 2 months ago. And have gone on plenty of dates. Now I'm not rushing anything, so I'm cool with the pace that we are taking things at. aka we Haven't had sex, or don't anything intimate. She has kissed me, but we didn't kiss for like a full blown makeout session, but I would love that to happen. Anyways, I need some help with this.
So w.e I've taken her out about a million times, movies, dinners, lounges, you name it we have a blast together. We talk dalily. She speaks and acts as if she is my wife, talks like she's my wife, if were out with other guy friends, I'm the one she comes too, she doesn't go to them.. Anyways.. But I'm just confused because we Haven't gone farther. (not sex) but like she hasn't said anything like, oh I wanna be with you and stuff. Get what I mean?
She has also brought up the fact that she is Jewish. Now she's not like a hardcore Jewish girl that dresses up in uniform all the time and wears a wig. But she does practice the religious aspects. She doesn't eat normal meat, which doesn't bother me, she only eats kosher, which is totally fine. But she has brought up the fact that she wants her kids to be Jewish, and I said that's fine, but they also have to know there Greek. Straight up. Cause I'm Greek.
Anyways we went out Friday night, and she brought one of her gfs out with her. And her girlfriend was being so rude to me because I wasn't Jewish. Like she was saying the meanest things, w/e I didn't just sit there and take it like a little bitch, I stated my points. And the girl I'm seeing also snapped on her friend that she brought out for being so rude to me.. Anyways other then that me and her had an amazing night.. And she apologized to me the next day for everything her friend did..
This Jewish girl, is also a cancer, and I'm a Pisces, so we understand each other very well, and get along very well.
Anyways, I wanna know if this is going anywhere... Like I am spending my money on her. I don't take her out to cheap places, and she knows that... She says to me all the time that I'm such a great guy... But I feel like she won't be 100% with her because I'm not Jewish.. At the end of the day were in 2012. I've even told my cousins about this, and there like, k she's acting stupid if she won't be with you because your not Jewish.
Anyways, some1 tell me what to do.
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i am jewish and let me tell you you are in a pickle. I am not trying to be discouraging. but I was in a similar situation. I am jewish and though I am not so religious my family is traditional and would NOT accept me being with a non jewish man. I am sorry to break this to you but it is true. jews are VERY big on no intermarriage. therefore a lot of parents will not even accept their jewish child dating a non jewish man or woman.
my parents would actually disown me for marrying a man who is not jewish. even if they came around I know my relationship with them would be strained or distant forever. they would be very hurt and likely never accept it.
if you are very religious jew it is easy but for someone like me it is very hard. sounds like the girl is similar to me. she probably likes you a lot but is in a dilemma because she knows her family will not accept it.
i was in a similar situation. I dated a non jewish guy for a few months and I kept it very on the down low. some of my jewish friends would not even be accepting, let alone my parents. I liked him a lot but never pushed the relationship issue with him or wanted to commit. emotionally I wanted to but I knew it would not be a smart idea because of the whole family problem.
it sounds like she likes you but is scared to commit because her family will never accept it.
she is not acting stupid. people who do not have this type of upbringing do not understand. your friends do not understand but let me tell you it is not an exaggeration, parents will literally disown their children for marrying out!
in 2012 in America for a jew who is not so religious it can be a big strain. I always feel very restricted in my dating life. good luck.1
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