so here is my problem. my boyfriend and I just got back together about 3 1/2 months ago after we had been broken up for about 2 1/2 months. we previously were dating for a while before. the last time we went out he told me that he loved me and everything now I find out that he didn't mean it. he thought he loved me but didn't. he says that this time its going to take him a little while before he says it.
before we got together the first time he had been dating this girl for about a year. he was in love with her and he thought she was "the one". he says it is going to take him a while to love someone again.
last night I was with him and I almost told him that I love him cause I feel that I do. should I have told him or should I wait to tell him? if anyone has any advice please let me know any advice is good.
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I was in a position quite similar to yours. In my case I was the one who said I love you and took it back. In my case however, I took it back because my ex had been intimate with another guy and every time she told me she loved me I questioned it to the point where I wasn't sure how I felt. Perhaps in your cause something happened to make him change his mind. Try to find out why he said he didn't mean it. Instead of saying I love you! try telling him things like, I care a lot about you. And also show him rather then state it. If he just recently got out of a relationship and is questioning his love for you because of that. Expect that it will take him a bit to warm up to you. Just hang out with him often. One suggestion is to be friendly with him. Instead of always acting like a girlfriend act like a friend. Playful, caring, and awesome to just chill with. this will make him see how great you are and there will come a moment when you can say I love you... but in a playful way and then slowly make it more romantic. Don't make things too serious and corner him by telling him you love him. It might freak him out. In other words you don't have to wait to tell him you love him just don't make it seem as its an EPIC LOVE! Make it calm caring and a friendly "god your so cute I love you. *laugh*" and eventually when a moment feels right... Look him in the eyes and say it. Then a quick kiss and back to playful. That way he doesn't feel pressured to say it back. I hope I was helpful. Take care and don't worry it will be alright. Take it slow and enjoy your time with him. "Life is what's happening while your making plans." Don't think about how much you want to tell him you love him. Just love him while with him.1