I am 20 years old and my date is 23. We went out yesterday and had a blast and went back to his place where we watched a movie, talked, and joked like buddies. My date was very respectful and not aggressive at all. As things progressed and we got closer on the couch, we went from not touching each other at all most of the day to passionately kissing, touching, basically drooling over each other like sex crazed maniacs. We could've had sex, part of me REALLY wanted to but I couldnt. I want him to respect me and put in time with me. I didn't have sex with him on the first date because he would think I'm easy and a hoe. I have never even french kissed anyone on the first date before. So:
1.how do we continue on from last night in a "normal" way? I was going to invite him over to a house party my family and building is having, but I don't want to scare him into thinking that because of last night that I'm getting too serious about him.
2. I want to have sex with him but I also want to be in a relationship with him. How do I fix what I have done?
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I'm gonna be honest, you should not have gone back to his house after the FIRST DATE. That alone diminishes your value. Its not something a high status chick would do because you don't even really know the guy, or at least you just started dating and he hasn't put in work yet. You shouldn't have gone back to his house. Luckily for you he was a gentleman because some guys are not.
Dont invite him to a house party. If you want him to see you seriously like relationship material keep most of your initial dates out of houses. He needs to properly date you, like take you out to movies, dinners, events etc. Don't let him get used to doing casual no effort things with you.
Set the tone. Since you've made out with him and touched him you can't really go back but it doesn't have to mean you go further or do it every time you all hang out. Keep him out of your house and stay out of his until you get more serious, just see him out in public and don't see him THAT often. Go on 2/3 dates a week at the most. He should miss you and think about you when you're not around, not always know where you are because he just saw you and just talked to you.
If he likes you and wants to be your boyfriend then he'll try to lock you down quickly. If not then f*** it.1