I'll try to make this as short as I can. I met this guy 3 years ago. He was married. They lived in the same house but he slept in the basement. I didn't believe him at first so I created a fake F-book profile & friended her. She would say that she was only married because they had 2 boys & they weren't in love etc. We continued to see each other for about 6 months. Talking literally all day/night spending the weekends together. I knew if they were anything more there's no way she'd be OK with him talking to me all the time. He took me to the marine ball & I was introduced as ‘his girl’. We weren’t hiding things. One night she went through his cell and read all of our texts and threatened to move to FL with their boys. He stopped all contact with me. I was heartbroken but felt awful because of the entire situation. It took me a long time to move on & now I realize that I never actually let him go. I thought about him all the time and kept hoping on day … well I was going through my fbook messages 2yrs later and saw this message he sent me from 6 mos back! I never saw it before for some reason. He apologized for the way things ended, telling me how amazing I was, thanked me for being there for him & showing him nothing but love etc. He said that if I hated him he understood. I sent him a message saying that I didn’t hate him. It hurt a lot & took me a while to move on but given the situation we all made mistakes. From that day on we talked/skyped/emailed/texted non-stop for a month. His wife moved out before we started talking again & they were ‘working towards a divorce’. He invited me up with my daughter for the weekend & we all had a blast! We continued to see each other for 6 mos. We got into a big fight & he said let’s just be friends so I don’t hurt you again. We tried for a month but there was obvious sexual tension & we couldn’t keep things on a platonic level while still talking all of the time. So I said that I couldn’t be just friends with him. We didn’t talk for 2 weeks & then I get phone calls & texts & voice mail with him begging me to not leave him & how he loves me & needs me etc. I emailed him back & explained to him in detail that I loved him deeply but couldn’t just be friends with him. He replied saying that he’s sorry he hurt me but doesn’t know what to say. Another 2 weeks pass & while I’m hurting trying to get over him again, I email him telling him off for hurting me again. He replies back to my work telling me how he’s so sorry & wants to kill himself. I take off & drive the 2 hours from where I live to him.
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He's not fit to be with anyone right now, so I'd back off but leave the lines of communication open for if/when he gets his head screwed back on right.
You can't help him. Only he can decide to start living and move on from a marriage that's doomed to fail.
You don't want to have a suicidal Significant Other. Been there, done that, and it sucks more than I can describe.
You don't want to be the rebound girl. His emotional state is in flux. You aren't talking to the real him, and you might not like him once he's OK again.