I started talking to a guy on a dating site a couple of months ago. We met up and had sex. I asked him if generally does that; have sex with girls he meets on that site. He said he's so far met three but hasn't had sex with any of them.
I knew that we wouldn't end up dating as he isn't after a relationship (he's moving to a diff. country soon). But yet it bothers me to see he's on there way more often than he gets in touch with me. We've had sex a couple of weeks ago and he's on there messaging girls. It sort of makes me feel so worthless. I know I can't tell him because I've got no right to feel this way. I like talking to him, but sometimes I think that maybe I should just not write anymore.
Thoughts? Do I just need to chill and get a grip?
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I won't put it as harshly as "get a grip," but you are expecting a little much here. No matter what you decide to go on a first date, be that dinner and polite conversation without so much as a hug, or have sex, the expectations are still the same. You went on ONE date. He's more than within his right to decide he doesn't want a second, or that he doesn't want to talk very much, and so are you.
By the same token, he clearly isn't giving you what you hoped to gain out of that encounter. He's not making you feel good, he's not giving you much attention, and he's definitely not going to start a relationship with you, so why bother with this guy? Whether your feelings are warranted or not, they're still your feelings. And if all he's bringing you is jealousy and heartache, with no hope of a relationship at the end, why bother? Stop messaging him. Show your worth in the sense that you don't accept situations and people that don't work for you, and he clearly doesn't.1
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