So, a little over a month ago, I met a guy, "Jake", who goes to a college nearby. (We're both 20 years old.) We hit it off, he asked for my number, and we have been texting constantly. He came and visited me last week, and everything is perfect. He's honestly everything I could ask for in a guy.
The thing is, I "dated" his older brother, "Mark", when I was a Senior in high school for about three months.(So, two years ago. Also, I had NO idea "Jake" is "Mark"'s younger brother when I met him.) By dating, I mean that within three months, we went on three dates. "Mark" quickly got obsessive though, talking about how he loved me, how he wanted to marry me, how we would be together forever, etc. Also, "Mark" never mentioned me to his family, (due to embarrassment because of age difference: 18 and 22, at the time), and so far, whenever "Jake" talks about him, I've acted like I don't know "Mark".
"Mark" and I didn't end on bad terms, but we didn't end on great terms. He ended up ignoring me, and that's how he "ended" it. We haven't been in contact since it "ended", and I don't have any of his contact information.
"Mark" is not pining over me or anything. He dated a girl for seven months after he "broke up" with me, and is now in another serious relationship that has lasted for four months now.
"Jake" added me on Facebook, and I can't tell if "Mark" either didn't notice, or didn't care. Since "Mark" kept me a secret when we "dated", I'm not even sure if I should mention anything to "Jake". I don't even consider "Mark" that important, since I only went on three dates with him. But "Jake" and "Mark" are close, and I don't want there to be any bad blood.
What should I do? I REALLY would like to date "Jake" because I see a lot of potential with him.
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look if mark really loved you he would do more than what jake is doing to you to make you smile . and I think you should tell jake every thing and he said that he dosenot want to lose his brother than you should tell him that him kepy you like his "dirty secret' and didnot want anyone knows about urs relation ship
sooner or later mark will know about you and jake0