I don't know what's wrong with me. When I like a guy, I want to be in touch with him as often as possible. I know this alienates most guys. A girl who is too available and makes it known she's into you is the last thing a guy wants. But even though I know all of this, I find it hard to break this pathetic behavior . I'm quite aware that the guys are annoyed, and probably roll their eyes each time they see me in their inbox, but I just can't stop.
Now I'm thinking that I will try to stay away from this guy's inbox for 1-2 weeks. He's not a boyfriend, but he's someone I like. Started talking to him on a dating site. I've noticed (but it may be paranoia) that he avoids me lately, and I assume it's related to the fact that I'm just too much. Always there. No mystery. No hunt. No nothing. And then when the guys don't write as often as I'd like, I get upset. I barely ever tell them, but I suffer in silence.
I don't know, say something to me, guys. Don't be rude though, I know I have issues. Hahaha!
Most Helpful Guy
The problem here is not so much that you give a guy attention or make it known that you like him, but you come off as needy. What I mean by this is that you center your life and thoughts around this guy, messaging him and thinking about him constantly. Find a hobby, honestly. Develop your own passions, whatever they may be. Also, have more than just one reliable listener for your emotions, don't let a single guy you like become this sole listener because you're investing way too much in a singular person. We all want to be loved, but we also all want a little room, so don't push too hard to show you like someone, don't devote your life to them just yet.1
Most Helpful Girl
Keep yourself busy, try going out with friends or focusing on work or a hobby! Don't sit staring at a computer waiting for that one guy.
There is nothing worse than coming across as needy and most guys will run a mile. As much as you are itching too continue mailing him just you know DONT. I know it's not that easy but go work out or watch TV or read a book anything. When he replies, take a good 10 min too reply. Don't seem so available.
If you do this, you will have guys flooding your inbox which is what you want.
For me, when a guy I like texts me I read the text and wait. Then I will reply some minutes later. If he doesn't reply I will NEVER double text him. If he doesn't reply he isn't worth my time in my head. I was kind of brought up by a mother who drilled into me that I am a freaking goddess and that guys should be lucky too have me. I know I'm not, but this persona means I've never been dumped or had my hearty broken so I must be doing something right.
Good luck babe.0
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