I'm 20, never had a boyfriend.
It's been about 5 months since my last post here, on a similar topic. You guys gave me some great advice, told me to focus on myself for a while, etc, learn to love myself.
I have done that. I joined a dance group that performs regularly to get some confidence. Got a new hair style, I made lots of new friends too. I came out of my shell quite a bit.
But no guys. Nobody actually wants to date me. A few just want to sleep with me. No guy is after me, or wants to get to know me, or thinks I am particularly interesting.
What is the problem? Every guy I have gone for in the past year has friend zoned me, easy peasy.
There are plenty of girls who don't love themselves who have boyfriends.
I know there's likely nothing wrong with me, but sometimes it sure feels like it.
No matter how friendly I am, guys still look right through me. I'm a great friend, but no one is going to put in the effort to actually date me.
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Sounds like you are movin in the right direction by making these changes. 1st off there are tons of loser guys who are just lookin for a quick piece of ass. That just comes w the territory when you're a woman. There are plenty of great guys out there tho it just takes awhile to weed through the bad ones. My guess would be that you are maybe not throwing out the right signals to guys you're interested in or are shooting for guys possibly a little outta your league. Guys like a little mystery and maybe you're just being too available and friendly to them so they just see you as a friend. I would keep doin what you're doin, but maybe kick up your flirting skills a little bit and draw some more guys in. Stay away from the players that are just lookin for some ass tho. Those guys are pretty transparent. They pursue you hard and try to get intimate w you right away. Look for the guys that are a little more shy and reserved cause they tend to not be the overly confident player types. Good luck!0