I am single and 33 years old. No kids either. Due to bad luck and attracting the wrong type of guys.
Everything else in my life is fine. I am not over weight or anything (just putting that out there! LoL). Good job, family and friends but this one little thing is the one thing I can not get right.
I have had two serious past relationships before. But have not put myself out there that much. Have only had two dates in the last two and a half years since my last relationship. Guess I have got to put myself out there more.
I have been reading online that people are saying that it is harder for women to date in their mid 30's. Great.
I look young for my age and still get hit on by guys in their mid 20's. . LoL.
Could looking young play a part in this also? I guess it could go in my favor as well. If I play my cards right.
Just really surprised me reading about that with women single in their mid 30's!
What are other peoples thoughts on this?
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To be quite honest with you ,
''The following doesn't apply for your case probably'' , but I see this pattern in women and I see the consequences and it worries me. So I will , use this thread to just give some advice to women.
These days, women have a very strong sense of entitlement. But this entitlement sometimes project expectations that not necessarily is existent with men.
I have read threads on this site that women , don't want to settle down before they are 30. They feel they should party away their youth away and lay with many guys as they could. May be study and get a PHD or have a career and be super rich.
When they are finished with this, and they want to settle down .. and the biological clock start ticking.. they think that doing the above that they did will get them men .. the reality is that nothing of the above is a major attraction criteria in men's programmed biology. These are things you are doing for yourself. You will not need men in life. Congratulations. You have your own budget , money , you will travel the world and dress all the brands you want. Again, nothing of the above is an attraction criteria in men's programmed biology
We want you youthful, kind, feminine, fun, We want to feel you need us, to be your protector, provider. Call me old fashioned but this is what many men feel.
Yes we want you to be smart and educated,but we don't want you to waste year years away to be ultra smart and ultra educated.
Women advancement is great, but as everything in life, it comes at a price.. your expectations of men are getting higher and your dating pool are getting less. You have a Masters in Finance and you are a CPA.. you meet a construction worker in bar... hmm...
Super hot popular guys have many options and they can sleep with any woman they want any time... They don't need to commit to you.. their biological clock is not urgently ticking as a female one.
Now regular guys who wanted marriage and commitment probably tried to approach you in your twenties. But you didn't feel they met year standards. They were 25 and so were you .
Now they are 30.. you are 30... their dating pool still includes the twenties.. while the guys in their twenties they you are hot , they will commit even harder than the ones in their 30s.
Ok by the time you have read so far.. all radical feminists are down voting me... But it is not too late for women in their 30s to get the man of their dreams , just a bit harder work
1- Don't be needy, cynical , man hating .. this is a turn off for men.
2- Smile and be kind, but not let any man walk over you . We will respect you when you know your value.
3- Don't be too easy for sex.
4- Be ready to compromise a bit , you still have to be attracted though.
5- Hang around men , but don't feel desperate. If you don't feel desperate they will respect you and take you seriously.
6- Don't rush for a child with your first relationship over 30. Make sure he is stable and serious.6
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