I care for my boyfriend a lot. We've only been together as a couple for several months, but I feel really comfortable being around him and can be myself. He's a sweet guy, but what I don't like is that a lot of the times that we have something planned (e.g. go out to see a movie, out to eat, or just to hang out at his house), something comes up. Some of the excuses he's given me were he was sick, he had car problems, he had to babysit for his sister's kids, something came up at work, or his phone was acting up so he never got any of my texts. I always listen to his excuse and question him about it to see if it sounds reasonable. All of the times he's done this I've forgiven him because I love him and care about him. However sometimes I feel like I would do more for him than he would for me. And I've even brought that up with him, and he just says it isn't true.
This time though he planned to take me to be with his family on Christmas Eve, and it never happened because he had to work late. So then he promised me the next day, when it was actually Christmas. I got dressed and had presents for him and his family ready to go, but hours passed and I never got a call or text from him. I texted him several times- no response. I called him twice- he didn't pick up. I was so upset I just stayed crying in my room for most of the day. Then I got a message from him on Facebook saying his phone was acting up (which was an excuse he's given me before). I didn't even know what to say. I just feel that every time he and I have plans, something always comes up (even on the holidays). However all the times he has a concert to go to or plans with his friends, they ALWAYS go through. I just don't know what to really think anymore. I don't really want to break up with him, but at the same time I'm tired of being disappointed. Is there anything I can say to him that can make him change his ways? Or will he continue to act the way he does? :(
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Just tell him. Tell what's on your mind but don't tell him in a "I blame you for this" kind of way. Tell him you feel upset every time plans get cancelled, because you wanna spend time with him. Tell him "I feel...when..." and don't start with "YOU do this and YOU shouldn't do that".1