So I recently moved to a new city for a job. I don't know anyone who lives in this area and my coworkers are all 15 to 20 years older than me. I was thinking about trying online dating so I can hopefully meet some girls in my new area. What are your thoughts on online dating? Is it better to go free site or pay?
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I recently dove into online dating. I, like you, moved 4 months ago alone to a new city for a new job. All my co-workers are my age (24), but married. 7 of them met their husbands on Match.com
The one girl gave me a free 3 month subscription to Match. I originally declined because I thought it was for the desperate, but since I got a profile that's not the case at all. It is a good way to meet people. So far, I've met 2 girls. They haven't turned out to be dating material, but they have become good friends and we text daily. Right now, I'm talking to two others and one girl is a female version of me.
This is what I know: 7 of the 8 girls I've made initial contact with never responded to me. Why? Its a lot easier for girls to online date than guys. The girl I work with who met her husband on match got an average of 8-10 emails from different guys a day. Why? Because she was female. Also, to answer the last question, its better to pay for one. Its simple logic. People who pay $60 for 3 months are going to take it seriously...at least a lot more serious than the free ones.
My suggestion is try Match.com. There's a lot of misconceptions that I once had that really aren't true. Its not for the desperate, its just a way to put yourself out there and meet new people, and even maybe "the one." And if you don't meet "the one", maybe one of the girls you meet online will introduce you to her friends. The one girl I met, I'm also now friends with 2 of her friends.
BUT*** a few disclaimers here: First off, don't go in with high expectations. Meaning, don't expect to meet 27 girls and have them swarm around you. Second, don't expect it to happen overnight. If you're a girl, are you really willing to meet a guy you've only emailed 2 or 3 times? It takes time and some decent email conversation. Keep your expectations of online dating low and it works out a lot better. Finally, don't go on there looking for hookups. Its disrespectful and shows you're a lowlife.
Try it...what do you have to lose other than $60?0