without looking desperate or needy? I I feel taken for granted. He's away on a week-long vacation at his aunt's. I know he can text there as he texted me for new years. I texted him this afternoon to ask him if he could check for my beloved mittens which I think I forgot in his car. He gave them to me and I've been depressed the whole day thinking that I might have lost them. He never replied, even though I told him in my text that I was very sad and upset about it.
It's not so much about today. He tells me he's really happy when I text him out of the blue to check on him but he never seems to care for me as much. He says he thinks about me but he initiates little to no contact when we're apart. I want to ignore him until he comes back because I'm hurt but I wish he'd know that I'm disappointed about his lack of communication. I don't want to play silly games but hell, I feel like I'm treated poorly whenever he's away.
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Hate to say it but it sounds like you need more constant contact than he does. That makes you the needier one in the relationship. No bad. There's always one. I'd recommend positive reinforcement rather than negative if you want to alter his behavior. You want him to LIKE talking to you, so make sure there's always something interesting to talk about and keep it positive.
I know I suck at initiating contact beyond emails. My Dad actually sent a full Colonel that worked for him to track me down when I didn't bother to call home for a few months during Operation Joint Endeavor. Yes. I suck, but I'm not the only guy that does. Sorry. <:-)
One more bit. Talk about what you really really like rather than what you need. It makes a difference.0