My crush rejected me in the past because she likes someone else and she's TOTALLY set on him, so the rejection wasn't personal! However she knows that I still like her... which isin't always a bad thing, she's still very responsive and flirts back a little(since she's still single technically) We're both in HS btw
So anyway I texted her to meet me on her break at work so we could have that "Where do we stand?" talk she tried to get outa me over a text message(I remember she begged me to text her what I wanted to talk about, but I said I rather do it in person. Also she said "Please don't assume anything, you never know. just tell me" (which I would assume is a good sign) when I said I had an idea of what I knew her response would be)
Anyway she approaches me on her break, her and I were both nervous, and I simply started with
Me: "You know that gut feeling you sometimes get?"
her: "gut feeling about... what? (nervous giggle)
Me: "Sometimes I think there's some mutual attraction between us... so where do we stand?"
Her: "As friends"
Me: "Always as friends?"
Then I just said "ok" cooly and changed the conversation, real smooth and easy. Then she had to go back inside cause it was cold out
BUT I decided to approach her a second time, like 5 min later. So I ask again
Me: "Just to clarify... is there any future between us?"
Her: "I'll get back to you on that" (and she did look real nervous, deep in thought, walking slow and nervously and deep in thought)
Me: (Jokingly) "As long as you don't forget like last time haha" (She forgot to get back to me about something minor a week ago)
I know from asking anonymously on her tumblr(yeah, creepy I know :p) that she mainly looks for guys with a lot of mutual interests, which YES both me and her have. So I decided it would be BRILLIANT and would make me look great to text her
"No matter what your final answer is I'll always stay your friend. We have WAY too much in common, and ironically that's what I look for in a girl ;P take your time tho!"
So yeah, thoughts on the situation, and was my text idea good at getting me a future shot and cause her to re-evaluate me? My only fear is that because I said I'd willingly be her friend, she might say "We'll always be friends" because I sorta agreed to, as a way to let me down easier. Idk?
ALSO if she does say "no, there's no future", is it appropiate to ask why?
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Alright I looked at your second question, and it is in line with what you back up plan should be:
"run from me and I'll chase you, chase me and I'll run away from you"
I'll try to make you understand what you desperately refuse to accept but is true (I am not trying to be harsh, I just want to be less confusing than yesterday):
-As of right now, you have virtually no chance of getting with her.
-If she meets a new guy who seems nice and fun, she will probably go out with him (new person's advantage). (do not take it personally, it is not because of who you are it is because of the position in which you are).
-The only alternative you have right now is: Forget about it, Move on, it might even help to talk to her as little as you can.
as an outcome: she might "ONE DAY" want something more as a result of you having moved on and grown up and why not having gotten a girlfriend.
All I can promise you, is that by then you will look back on it and think, oh my god I would have died a million times for this girl and now... she is just another girl.
You are still young, it is part of you growing up.
-Oh and by the way, if she is a smart girl, she will realize quite soon that you are the random anonymous guy and that won't look good. So stop it as soon as you can lol, because you can be anonymous all you want, you are the only guy who is trying hard to get with her lately and she will do the link.
Let me know if anything is confusing.
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