I was wondering guys, if a woman texted you "I'm not mad or anything like that but I was wondering was sleeping with me your only intentions? I don't care either way, I just want to know" is that too blunt? because I am the type of girl that doesn't like to play games or beat around the bush when it comes to talking about guys and things I want to know.
the guy texted back saying "No because if it was don't you think I wouldn't be texting you back or talking to you" and then in the evening after I didn't respond to the last message he said "what did you?" not sure what that means exactly but would you guys be mad if a girl sent that kind of text that I sent to him?
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He basically said what I would have. You can tell someone up front (not on the first date) but before the first time you have sex with them that you either don't mind being FWB or you absolutely don't want to be FWB. Once you've already had sex with him, it's kinda late in the game to ask. You're at his mercy at that point. I understand feelings can change, and maybe you realize after you had sex with him that you maybe you cared more than you thought you did. But go ahead and say that. Don't hit him with the "I don't care either way", 'cause you kind of already tipped your hand and showed that you do care. Else, you wouldn't ask that question at all. It would have just been sex. As a guy, that text from you seems a little bit like your getting nervous and approaching the situation in a weird way. It's better to put it all on the table as soon as possible rather than act like everything is cool, but secretly stress out. Because now, he's gonna be stressed wondering if you are on the verge of flipping out on him, or no longer being cool. And yes, if he was just using you for sex...that's exactly the kind of text that he'd have conveniently ignored, or at least waited at least 24 hours before answering (bullsh*tting an answer really). I'm guessing the guy actually likes you, but you probably annoyed him a little and wondering if you're about to get weird on him.1
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