I'm going on a date with a beautiful woman and I basically have to assume she's dating/seeing other guys as well since that's the nature of the thing. I have a few disadvantages: I'm younger than her by 2 years and I'm not half as good looking. Also, I'm rather skinny.
The only good thing I have going for me is that she gave me her number on my own, though God knows why.
How do I make sure I stand out and how do I try to make it not a big deal?
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By being yourself. I was being courted by many abd going on a few dates with some, (none of which ended with so much as a kiss) when I met my boyfriend. It just clicked. The compatibility was there. In fact, in our case, I initially turned down his first attempt to go out because I had a second date planned with someone when we first met and I didn't want to even partially commit to a date in case the upcoming date went somehow good and I wouldn't feel like dating anyone else. When that guy unfortunately cancelled, boyfriend, at the time one of many attempting suitors, whom I was by then really enjoying his company in even text, asked me if I was upset. I told him no because I had no emotional attachment and was just being careful and fair about things. An hour later, he jumped on the opportunity and asked me to lunch the next day. I was very impressed at his action, that he didn't wait to lose the chance and quickly agreed, very atteacted by his bold approach. I accepted and we very quickly found out we were very compatible. We went on several more dates the same week, and by the end of it, I was content to accept us to take things exclusive (though I hadn't accepted dates already since I met him and went on our first date.) When we decided exclusivity, (only because it was very incredibly clearly mutual) I responded to any new messages from guys who had attempting to court me with a polite and tactful response that I'd begun dating and was no longer interested in continuing even casual nuance.
Very seriously, he won me over before the date, as someone I enjoyed talking to (even then after only 3 days before the first date) We'd clicked inmediately and I saw characteristics early on that already made me feel like he was easy, interesting, attentive though not clingy, and not irritating (You'd be surprised how many were...) With his go getter approach that made me feel like he was fully interested and and didn't give up despite 'competition, I was won over even more. Our date was very warn and honestly...'it' was just there. I respected, admired, and adored him immediately. I was rivetted. Three months later and I'm so happy that he pursued me. He is by far, without a shadow of a doubt, the best thing outside my son, that has ever happened to me.
And you know what? He still, with complete sincerity, admits to being completely thrown for a loop that I accepted and committed to a date. He's told me that he was fully prepared for and expecting a rejection and couldn't believe I accepted. (When I did, he actually responded, "Wow. Really?" or something to that effect that I found adorable even then and told him "Of course. Why wouldn't I?" But he went for it and asked me, thankfully for me, and now we're both very lucky he did.1
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