Its a little bit lengthy but I just can't stop thinking about it so please can someone let me know what they would do?
On the second date a girl came to my house for a movie night dressed in very revealing (slutty) clothes for just a movie night. On both dates we had, she never had any physical contact with me, no touching, kissing or anything, but seemed to have a lot of attraction and a lot in common with one another even down to small life details we seemed like a good match.
Even though I hinted strongly towards contact, by leaning in, placing my hand near hers and even "accidentally" touching her hand when sitting down and she just pulled away. It seemed like we had a good time and everything but was not comfortable yet with being touched. As the night progressed she got absolutely smashed drunk. Being who I am I did not let her drive home and went to bed, which she just followed me into bed and I just expected to fall asleep.
She jumps on top of me 5 min after a small cuddle and starts kissing. Then she offers sex and I said no because I did not want to feel like I was taking advantage of her. She insisted then I said maybe we should take things slow and plus I don't have protection because I was not expecting sex due to no physical contact prior to her jumping on top. She then further said that she was on the pill and we will be fine so I got very suspicious and still said no. In the morning she left with barely a good bye.
The weird thing is I ran into her at the bar a week later (she was wearing a skimpy slutty zebra dress) and she starred at me the whole time according to my friend (about 3 hours) and I even gave her a ride home but haven't heard from her since.
To me being smashed drunk just does not feel right to have sex. I would rather have a relationship then a one night stand.
I am very new to the dating scene and just want to know is it normal to have sex when drunk on a second date?
Am I thinking to much about what happened?
Or should I try to find a girl that can see I have respect for others and am a very caring person?
Thank you for your help.
I just need to move on and find someone that deserves to be treated right and can like me for who I am.
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I think you did the right thing. You certainly are a gentleman and many men would have taken full advantage of this girl and then who knows what might have happened? If you don't know her very well otherwise she could say she was raped or who knows that. The way she dresses and presents herself says a lot about the kind of person she is. If she will do that (offer to do that with you on 2nd date when drunk) she's doing it with lots of other guys too. I would beware and keep your distance.0