First of all before I go on, I have anxiety and I am very insecure.I have been like this in all relationships, it doesn't matter the person. It's just something that I have been trying to work on for years.Guys I've dated get really annoyed after a while,which is fair enough..But I've been having trouble with my boyfriend and my insecurities, he has mentioned he hopes they get better.I know they have been driving him insane.But on nye, he got this app Viber and he then got a normal text message, from this girl.I was right next too him and I said what's she saying?He said it's a bit rude but she had said" I have a glow stick in between my boobs"(she was drunk obviously).That made me angry seeing that, I'd also noticed in the texts that he had invited her to use Viber. I asked about it and he said it invites everyone..Anyway, he said he wasn't going to reply to her.I couldn't help myself and check and it looked like he had replied to her but deleted the message,because of the next message she then sent. The next morning she also sent him a message saying "Did you get a new years kiss?"I asked him why and I asked so many questions saying why aren't you reassuring me?Is she flirting with you?And he said I don't know, he started to get annoyed and said it's f****** annoying.I then said sorry and then he said it's alright..
Even still though, this girl has a boyfriend as well.I also noticed a few months ago my boyfriend was texting her but he deleted the messages.He has done something similar before..I understand if he does this because he knows how insecure I am but it's hard not to worry. I then realized that on Viber you don't invite everyone, you invite them individually. I said that too him and then I said "hmm interesting". He got annoyed, snapped at me and said "f****** annoying". I turned it around to make it sound like I wasn't been insecure..He then apologized and said, "Oh I thought you were suggesting I'd gone and just added people". I feel like he wouldn't cheat but I can't help but worry. There are reasons why he has added to my insecurity, I do make it worse for myself though. Now I don't know if they are talking behind my back or what,I can't talk to him about it, he will get so angry.I just can't let it go.Should I be concerned?
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Ok insecurity and anxiety are two different things, but they are always related!
I am not sure what kind of anxiety you have but my suggestion is that you should go
See a psychiatrist and get medicated. I know it sounds bad but is there any other option?
I mean how long you wanna live like this? I believe that you deserve a much better life.
Normally these kinda problems can’t be fixed with will power and self help. You need medication!
It takes only 6 months and then you are probably fixed and won’t need to take the medication any more.
2) Buy a good self-esteem book. There are plenty of them on Amazon I suggest Mattew Mackay, it’s only$12 on Amazon.