I met this guy online... He just moved here this week for an internship. We went on a date and had an awesome time telling stories, playing pool, drinking coffee, wandering around the city, etc. Then, at the end of the date, we ended up making out. It was actually pretty intense... We had good chemistry. He suggested that we meet up again as soon as possible, but ended up waking up sick the next morning.
For the next few days, we texted back and forth all day... He'd text me when he woke up and we'd be talking on and off 'til he went to bed. Then last night, he was talking about having the whole weekend off, and I playfully suggested that we should go on our second date.
This is what he said:
Him: Yeah let's play it by ear. I had a great time on our first date, I just haven't really kissed someone seriously like that since my last girlfriend. It was intense and I've been thinking a lot about if I'm ready. I don't want to rush something good!
Me: Yeah, I definitely wasn't expecting our date to end like that, but I had a great time with you and would love to get to know you better! I don't want to rush into anything either, don't worry :)
Him: Phew, 'cause it's all really intense for me right now with all this change. Thanks for standing by and supporting me!
Me: ha ha you've got a lot going on right now. It's enough with a new job, in a new city, with new roommates. I definitely don't want to overwhelm you :) I just think you're a really cool guy. Whatever happens, happens.
Him: Thanks! You're one of the most dynamic people I've ever met. I'm off to bed now though. Gotta sleep this off. (I'm not sure if he was referring to his cold or his emotions here).
Me: ha ha OK. Sleep tight, feel better, and I'll talk to you later!
Him: Sounds good :)
Last night I added him to Facebook, and he accepted. Today he didn't text me at all, so I texted him saying "Hope you're having a good day :)" and all he said was "Hello! Yes today has been quite nice actually :)" and hasn't said anything else.
Can anyone explain this to me? Did I do something wrong? Is he disinterested? Should I back off? I don't get why he's acting like I did something to scare him away... All we did was kiss, and he's the one who initiated... I really like what I know him and want him to give me a chance. What's with the sudden cold shoulder?
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Wait a minute, what exactly in his words or actions suggest that he's giving you a cold shoulder? His behavior and responses indicate positive leanings, not negative ones. He's busy and sick with a cold, but he otherwise has indicated that he likes you. I think you're massively reading into something that isn't there. I'd like you to explain what makes (in your mind) his behavior or wording thinking that he's blowing you off? Do you want to be messaged constantly? Is it because he didn't set up immediate plans for the future or suggest a relationship? What gives?1
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